“Husband Stitch”
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What’s a husband stitch? X
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That is absolutely horrendous, I’m sorry but it is his pleasure is the least of your issues I’m sorry they did that sweet if you didn’t consent I’d definitely seek legal advice x
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If I am to tear doing any activity, I’ll be suing. I shouldn’t feel uncomfortable down there for any reason whatsoever.
Yes I had the husband stitch with my daughter and it took me 3 extra weeks before I could enjoy making love again.. I didnt eve. Know about it till after when i went for my 6 week pp check up my doctor straight up asked my fiance. Hows the husband stitch? Tf!? I looked it up and was not happy at all.. It painful and makes it alot harder to heal.
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YES EXACTLY!! I didn’t find out until my 5w check up, yesterday. I asked why the pelvic exam hurt so bad and she said because they’d given me the stitch.
Its bs. I didnt even need to have an episiotomy done. The doctor I had just does them to everyone, and then just goes and stitches me up for my fiances pleasure.. Im the one who jist had a child in tore up down there you shouldnt be worrying about his pleasure . should be worried about my well being and healing correctly.. I was cut from vag to anus. I couldnt walk bc.my tail bone was fractured when i was in active labor with her and then I had the episiotomy on top of it. I was literally bed ridden bc it was impossible to move with all the pain.
Sarah and Incognito - if it were me, I would go to dr's office for a follow up appt, ask him about the stitching, get him to admit to the husband stitch, say I did NOT consent (and all the while have a tape recorder hidden in my bag). Then SUE SUE SUE for physical abuse and physical and emotional damages. That is trauma.
I’m not trying to discourage you from suing but it’s going to be incredibly difficult to win a medical malpractice lawsuit. Especially since you’re only 5 weeks postpartum. I completely agree that the husband stitch is a violation of your rights and body especially if you don’t consent but the chances of you winning are very slim. They’re going to request your medical records and honestly who knows what the doctors wrote in your records. And you also have to prove that the extra stitch has affected your way of life and your everyday activities. Most lawyers wouldn’t even touch your case because most require catastrophic injuries or even death to continue. They’re going to say that you don’t have enough damages to pursue a case. It’s also going to be incredibly expensive and these doctors are going to have an incredible legal team. Really sorry that this happened to you and hopefully it gets better. It’s honestly disgusting that the husband stitch is even a thing.
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Suing isnt the only thing id be tempted to do, personally. Posting it on youtube, on every social media platform he owned, for example... Submitting it to women's rights advocacy groups...
It could be considered libel which is written defamation or slander if it’s spoken (YouTube)and the doctor could sue you for that. You have to thread lightly with stuff like this because the consequences can be dire. The only way you can say stuff like this is if there any truth in your statements. If your sole purpose is to defame them without any proof then it’s a no go. I think it’s crazy given the 1st amendment but it is what it is.
My son is 11 years old now but my freakin doctor cut me when I was about 8cm dilated on the left side of the opening! Has anyone heard of that? Why you ask? Because if she cut going downwards and I ripped, it going have continued to rip to my anus... I wish I wasn't cut at all and the tear would have happened naturally. I had the hardest time walking and sitting and even got weird nerve pain when wiping using the restroom that would shoot up straight up my back (and I didn't get an epidural so it wasn't for that reason). I tried having sex at 6 weeks but about cried and tried at 7 weeks and it was still tender and painful but I bared through it. Probably at 8 weeks I was able to start having sex comfortably.
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This is what I’m scared of! I’m so sorry that happened to you 😔
Thank you... yeah freakin crazy!
Oh no!.. I'm so sorry that happened to you.. that should not be allowed. I hope that you recovered well without complications from it.. How did you find out they did that?
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During my pelvic exam at my 5w check up. I asked why the spectrum hurt so bad and why things felt off, she explained that I had a second degree tear and along with my stitches I’d be given a “husband stitch”. I asked what it was and why it was given and she explained that because my body went through a trauma and with me tearing that it wouldn’t be as pleasurable for my SO. “For mother’s who don’t tear, most ask for it or don’t know about it to ask”
Had it done to me at 15, it was absolutely horrendous. It tore again and it healed naturally and it felt so much better after it healed. My whole first birth was traumatic and abusive however, so it was no surprise. My midwife was horrified at my second birth.
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You’re so much stronger than I am!
I had my baby 10 nearly 11 months ago and it still hurts even now 🙃
I know for a fact that I didn’t have the “husband stictch” but it still took a while before I was comfortable having sex, I did tear to the 3rd degree though. A natural tear because she got stuck but depending on how much you did to prepare your pelvic floor and how your own skin reacts it can be really tight regardless of stitching. It’s also helpful to know that sometimes they call the last stick the “husband stictch” because it puts everything back together how it was before... this from working at a labor and delivery hospital
What’s a husband stitch?🤔
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It’s when a dr stitches you after birth 1-2 extra stitches so it’s more sexually pleasing for your s/o
an extra stitch given during the repair process after a vaginal birth to tighten the vagina for increased male pleasure.