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Perinatal team

I’m due to give birth anytime now and have been referred to the perinatal team due to just feeling anxious, they did say if I didn’t meet criteria they would advise other services but they have sent me a letter taking me under their care as ‘moderate’ now I’m panicking thinking there definitely is something wrong wi...

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Postpartum vagina..

Has anyone looked at themselves down there and the aftermath right after birth? I have not and I don’t want to.. I just felt it with my hands and I feel my stitches.. is it normal that my stitches feel like a balloon and form on the outside of my skin rather than inside.. I literally have it down my anus.. how...

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MIL is telling me and my partner that our baby can't always expect to be with us

My partner said to her that she's bound to want me and him, but she's saying it's unhealthy and not normal to want us all the time? She cries every time she's near her and wants to come back to me

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Sex postpartum

I’m obviously not going to have sex right now as I am almost two weeks postpartum and had a second degree tear… just wondering for the mamas that tore when they had sex again??? My sex drive went down while I was pregnant but has since been so high since I had my baby so I’m thinking about it a lot 😅, I’m terrified…

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What is this?

Hi everyone, I’m really struggling in the week before my period (and every day leading up to it) and looking for advice. I have a toddler and a 3 month old. I’ve been experiencing extreme mood swings, crying for no reason multiple times a day, panic attacks that come out of no where, and a deep sense of sadness that...

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All the things I said I wouldn’t do

I said I wasn’t going to cosleep and yet some nights its just easier. I said I wasn’t going to do screen time too early but here I am having my 2 month old watch dancing fruit so I can keep her distracted while I do things around the house. Do I feel any mom guilt? Barely, my child is healthy, loved, and I also need...

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First day/ night home

We got to leave the hospital today with our newborn. We had her on 3/5 and she had a few complications ended up in the Special Care Nursery (a level 2 NICU) this morning she was cleared and we got to bring her home! After being home I have found myself almost unable to stop crying because I have convinced myself tha...

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Am I being selfish?

What do you do/ or would you do when your BD/ex fiance is a narcissist and have hurt you severely during and after the pregnancy? Talk about all kinds of abuse including cheating... But loves his baby (9 months) and want to be present every step of the way. Baby however exclusively breastfeeds so can't go alone, ref...

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Hair loss has me feeling so down lately..

So lately, I've been feeling so bummed and just so down, being 4 months postpartum, I haven't been able to do any high intensity workouts because of my knee being in so much pain. I'm still waiting on a referral to physical therapy for it. But in tip of that, the hair loss is real.. every day, it's 3-4 big clumps of...

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Post-Op

Just had a pretty major surgery... my mom took of a few weeks to help with the kids and take care of me. It's day two and she's exhausted! My partner not only didn't take days off, he also did not visit at the hospital, seen or helped with the kids. He hasn't even phoned to check up on them or myself. I'm angry, I'm...

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Am I being too sensitive?

I have a friend who is also pregnant (further along), I was so excited we were going to be pregnant together. Anytime I try to talk to her about anything to do with the pregnancy she either takes the piss out of me or rejects the conversation for example every time I see her she laughs if I’m tired, and makes joke...

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Watching your child grow up

Why is it SO hard and emotional watching your child grow up ? I’m in tears all the time anymore. He’s only 3 but everything is changing and I don’t know how to cope with it. He’s my only one. I feel like anxiety all the time about it

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Braxton hicks

Can anybody explain what this actually feels like? I have no idea if I’ve experienced it? Does it hurt I don’t understand 😂

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So my partner left for good

A couple of weeks ago I wrote a post about my partner and how much I was struggling. He dumped me by text accusing me of the most horrendous things. As it turns out, he has been telling all his friends that I won’t let him speak to anyone and that I wouldn’t let him go anywhere, but he always came and went as he p...

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Do you ever just look at your baby and can't believe they are here and yours?

It was long journey to getting my daughter, 12 years of infertility and miscarriages and suddenly she came as a surprise when I lost hope of ever being a mum. When I was pregnant I was so scared of losing her I didn't really enjoy the pregnancy, the only time I did was when I could feel her moving, kicking and hiccu...

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Normal to cry a lot end of pregnancy (39 weeks)

Has anyone else found they're crying a lot about random things and like super sensitive? Just wondering if it's normal, if it's maybe due to increase in hormones or a sign of labour coming possibly?

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PPD?

My little boy was born on 03/03 and I’ve just been crying whenever I’ve been alone and then today I’ve just not been able to really stop myself. He’s my second child first was born April 2023 and I had similar then where I was just an emotional mess and constantly felt sad. Is this postpartum depression?

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Siblings

Hi all :) my gorgeous little girl arrived late Feb and completed our family of 4 :) I already have my 3 year old little girl, and she is completely obsessed with our new arrival, but as expected, her emotions have been off the scale and I’m just a bit lost as to how to handle this? I expected her to find it diffic...

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How many times would you let someone speak to you like crap before cutting contact

I have a very close friend of around 10 years and I would say the past two months or so anytime someone upsets her she messages me and talks to me like absolute crap (will swear, tell me I’m stuck up and I have nothing to complain about). Today she has fallen out with another mum on the group chat because her son ...

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Mental health(Please help me)

I am 5 weeks postpartum and I’m experiencing lots of negative thoughts I keep thinking to myself what did I get myself into by having a baby? All I keep thinking is that I don’t want to do this for the rest of my life. I have been freaking out when taking care of my daughter and my fiance has to take over and I feel...

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