Will he change?
Show your support
If he cannot sustain consistent; move forward in a different direction.
Do not bring a baby into a toxic environment. Cut the losses from now. No. A baby does not by miracle change a man, if anything that is when you will start to resent and be bothered by him more.
It’s important you and your baby have a stable and supportive environment. Having a child has it’s rewards and challenges. Having the additional stress of a wishy washy adult wont help and him being so indecisive and confused shows his choice and that he wont pull his socks up and put you and your child first whilst he’s going through some sort of life crisis. I think you already know the answer. It wont be easy but in the long run you will be glad you didnt waste anymore time, energy and stress where it’s not worth it. I wish you all the best. You have got this x
In the same boat but we have only been together 5 years our son is 3 and no he won’t change even if you say he needs therapy I told Ming if we ever want to get married either he needs to go to therapy or we can go together and he says that’s stupid and he doesn’t need it like ok. I’ve just kinda given up and use my time and energy on our child and myself idk what else to do. Still waiting for that miracle to change him
@butters I’m sorry you’re going through it too, mine has been going to therapy luckily but I’m not sure how much of it is actually helping x
It's important when in the process of bringing a child into the world you are working towards the healthiest environment for them. That includes those that prioritize and are committed to this same goal in your life while doing so. I understand that its your child's father and husband. I truly understand why even the thought of leaving is so painful as i am two years post divorce myself after being with my ex husband 15+ years. However, when you become a mother you have to safe keep your child at all costs. It's unfortunate that after committing to marriage he's made the choices to pursue work venture so far away and for that long of extended period of time. I get the sense he's trying to run away from his commitment/life and/or engaging in his other life to determine what he truly wants since he's undecided. A person who in fact wants you and their child will be present and show up at all costs. Start to slowly build yourself up and life outside of him and continue to monitor measure level of consistency.