Anyone else’s partner was useless during the newborn stage but great during toddler stage?
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I’m not tryna sound rude or anything like that but some mothers don’t even have what u have so u should be grateful that he’s a great father now . He most likely was just scared that he ll do anything wrong because newborn stage is so hard as in they are so fragile and most people are so scared to even touch them as they are so so little . Enjoy the moments with him right now and let it be .
Your feelings are valid, it’s not nice that he wasn’t there to support you. But at least he is now right? You need to try and forgive him because otherwise your relationship isn’t going to last or at least it won’t be healthy… speak to him and see why he wasn’t very supportive, if you understood his side of the story it might be easier to shake the feeling of resentment. You might be surprised to hear that he was scared or struggling to bond and that’s quite common amongst new fathers! I doubt he did it intentionally to burden you!
I think that this resentment can be quite damaging to a relationship. I felt the same for a while but I just accepted that he was struggling to bond before baby started developing his little personality. They’re also very fragile when they’re newborns and that could have scared him. Also I think a lot of this is due to how they were raised and what they perceive as the “normal”…communication is key. Hope you manage to get over it x