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wow whoever is shaming you for that is crazy. babies can’t fully self soothe until 6 months of age. your baby has only been on this earth for a month of course they’re going to cry and want to be soothed by mama . don’t listen to these people parent your child the way you see fit
My daughter is 7 weeks and I always pick her up when she cries unless it’s just a little cry and then she stops x
Not wrong at all! It’s actually better for their brains & self regulation to hold them. They need lots of skin to skin contact with their mother in the first few weeks/months, as they’re not fully aware that they’re separate from their mother. Only 1 month old? That’s crazy to leave a newborn baby crying. They have no other way to communicate that they’re hungry/tired/need to be held, etc. I hate to see my babies/kids crying, I could never do CIO. I still pick up my older kids when they cry.
@Marta thank you! I hold them even when they aren't crying, because I know there will come a time when I can't hold them anymore. I want to savor those moments as well.
My baby is 12 weeks and I pick him up every time he cries. Tell them to mind their business. You do what you feel is right x
@Talia I've been saying that. I don't want to lose the bond with my child whose only been here for 1 month and isn't used to being outside. I want to comfort them and make them as comfortable as possible. Thank you! 😊
@Sasha I know the older generation used CIO and they think we turned out fine. I wouldn't want my child to suffer like that.
My family and inlaws are terrible for this 🙄 It’s long been disproven about spoiling a baby etc. There’s so much research into it! Young babies don’t learn to self soothe they just learn no one is coming 😢 Enjoy the tiny baby cuddles!
@Sarah I'm currently holding my LO on the couch while he's trying to go back to sleep after eating
Fuck the world! You do what YOU feel is right for you and baby! Do it unapologetically momma! It’s easy for anyone else to tell YOU to let YOUR child lay there and cry, no one will ever love your baby like you do. Trust yourself! Shame those people for sitting around and passing judgement on you! You are not wrong. I don’t let mine sit there and just cry either as it tends to feel cruel.
@Laurielle same here I’ve got the drying that needs taking out the dryer aswell but I thought f**k it will have 2 wait she’s my last baby and I want 2 enjoy it while I can x
@Emm that's really strong "they learn no one is coming". I would hate for my child to feel that way.
Never feel bad about comforting your baby when they cry. I've even taken my baby from my husband to hopefully comfort him quicker. As a mom we get extra hurt when hearing our babies cry, might as well do what we can to comfort them while we can. Plus CIO isn't until like 5 months. So enjoy those snuggles, I know I do.
@Laurielle Obviously we all need to get things done at times so there will be tears. But it stuck with me that consistently leaving small babies to cry is just teaching them that 😢 Also we wouldn’t just ignore a crying adult so why would we a baby.
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You are not wrong! It’s has to be your choice as their mother. And you are right that CIO only works past a certain again… BUT I don’t personally believe in CIO. Teaching your baby to self-soothe through ignoring them bothers me greatly. I’d rather teach them how to express their feelings and needs when they are old enough to talk. Up til then, I’m perfectly happy soothing my baby.
Nope, pick your baby up and love on them as much as you want! Now if my baby is taking her crib nap, I'll make sure it's not just active sleep before I pick her up. But if it's a true cry, you bet I'm going to pick up my nugget and love on her until she feels better. You can't spoil a baby. I think it's crazy that the older generation thinks babies need to be independent when they are literally dependent on us for everything.
My baby is also a month old. I pick her up in a minute or so when she cries if I'm in the middle of doing something. Sometimes she stops, and goes back to sleep. But if not I don't like her to be crying either.
i got this comment the other day from my gynocologist.. “ur such a first time mom, always picking the baby up when they start crying” like…. yeah u want me to sit here and watch him cry? wtf lol
Don’t listen to them pick up your babies whenever they cry your mom they want mom they need mom I always pick up my 3 week old and when someone is holding her if she cries or doesn’t stop crying I take my baby back I don’t care who it is or if they are helping holding her while I pee or eat my food I take her and I do it with her when I shower she showers with me. With my son who is 11 months old when he cries I still pick him up every time he cries wether he had a bad dream he is learning walking so if he falls I pick him up if he wants a bottle I pick him up and make the bottle with him no matter when he cries I pick him up he is still a baby he still needs me I will always pick him up and hold him until I can’t pick him up then I’ll just hold him wherever we are I don’t care and I can’t tell you how much negativity I hear about how my kid is being spoiled how he can’t self soothe how I’m not doing a good job need to do things this way instead of picking him up everytime he is upset
Even with my son being older than 6months he is still my little baby he still needs me and if he cries for me I take care of him I soothe him I calm him I’m always there for him and the same with my baby girl just know you are doing a good job your baby needs you pick them up hold them as much as you want you are mom and your baby needs mom I know easier said than done to ignore them and not let them get to you. It’s hard just know you are doing amazing🩷🩷
@Olivia What?? Wow. Was she your OBGYN when u were pregnant or during delivery?
I tell them "if you don't want to hold the baby fine..but I do and I will. Because baby is not old enough to self soothe yet and does not know anything yet. He/she is still new to this world and still need time to adjust. And I feel bad for you because you obviously were not held as a baby and it shows"
when i was pregnant, its kind of a large corporation so i would see a bunch of others in addition to her, i now know the importance of choosing a good gyno office 🙏🏼 @Sasha
Please hold your baby as much as you need. It’s good for them and it’s good for you. Don’t allow anyone to tell you otherwise. Hugs ❤️