Completely fed up.. 🥺

Ever since my baby has been born, she has been so, so difficult. We had a difficult birth - emergency c section and honestly, from day one all she has done is scream and cry. I know that is what babies do & I have been told by the doctors and HV's that "she is a baby, they cry" but I am just completely and utterly fed up of it all. She won't sleep & is going through a sleep regression at nearly 5 months old, she wakes every 30 minutes - 1 hour and I am so, so tired. Mentally and physically. I love her so much and when she smiles at me and giggles, I feel so warm inside but for the rest of the day it is just awful. Still screaming, still crying. Taken her to see a body specialist to release any tension from the traumatic birth, no improvements. I feel as though I am failing as a Mum, I'm not depressed and I know I don't have PND but I just feel like every day, my baby is so unhappy and I can't see how it's not my fault because I'm the one she spends all day with. We have small good monents but other than that, it's just such hard work. She's also stopped drinking half the milk she used to which stresses me out so much. None of my friends have experienced this and it makes me feel so alone. I'm exhausted and I don't know how to make it any better 😢

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I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to care for your baby. That’s the definition of a good parent. These stages aren’t forever, we have to have faith that things will get easier. I hope it gets better soon

@grace thank you 🤍 thats really kind x

My girl is 4.5 months , she is also waking up hourly at night , very difficult to feed now , only having half of the feed she was taking before,cries alot if i try to feed her Now i learned that she only like feeding when she is calm nd drowsy before sleep Thn she take her normal feed so m going on with this now I was very worried before about her feeding Nd everything u have written seems like my story Hope things will get better❤️❤️

Other than screaming and poor feeding does she have other symptoms? Lots of sick, mucus in poo, rashes, congestion? Just wondering if she has reflux, tongue tie or an allergy that is causing the crying and wake-ups. My baby cried A LOT and similar wake ups, he has multiple allergies that caused these, the crying was him being in pain which was also waking him up. Now we’ve found most of them he is a lot more settled. Are you breast or bottle feeding? If the GP/health visitor isn’t helpful can you afford a private paediatrician? You may be able to get a prescription for reflux medication or allergy formula if you she have other symptoms to trial.

Ditto Sarahs comment above, a GP might be able to prescribe something. Yes babies cry but they also shouldn’t cry all the time. You are doing a great job reaching out & motherhood isn’t always the easiest and you don’t have to ‘cherish every minute’ as it sounds exhausting what you are going through. I hope things get better soon for you both

My baby has feeding issues linked to her silent reflux, and it is so so stressful. She sleeps well and is a happy baby but just the level of distress and upset at feeding is enough to drive me up the wall. What I'm saying is your situation sounds bloody hard and it's ok to find it hard. You're human x

@Sarah no other symptoms, shes never sick and poo is fine, she's been completely fine up until 4 months old and now shes just non stop 🥺 thank you for your advice though x

Hmm is she going through the 4 month sleep regression? We had a period of 3 weeks where he was waking about 20 times a night but seems to have come out the other side. I don’t really have any suggestions, maybe speak to a sleep consultant, our health visitor said to contact them because there is a health visitor that supports parents of poor sleepers so maybe reach out to them.

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