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I suppose it is smaller in comparison to all the other things he does for me, which is why I make such an effort. I’m so terrible for memory, I have ADHD and forgetting or moving on to something else is so hard - so I have calendar reminders etc I don’t know, I just don’t feel all that special/appreciated when I’ve got to remind him of our anniversary. I plan everything we do, would be nice to not plan something. Thank you 🙏 appreciate your comment.x
I try not to set traps for people. It becomes a game and no one wants to be played with. Send him happy anniversary and try not get caught up in the different perspectives. This is important to you but understand that it may not be as important to him and that’s ok. If you send him happy anniversary in the morning and he doesn’t get you anything, then be upset.
Remind him and let him know you expect something 🙏
If you ask my fiancé when my birthday is you’ll probably hear 3 different dates before he gets it right (if he does) (he also decided to propose on my birthday as it’s “one less date to remember” but still gets it wrong 🤦🏻♀️ ) What I’m saying is men and dates do not go hand in hand 😂 just remind him in the morning and save yourself the upset when he doesn’t remember
@Lativa of course. There are plenty of things I don’t find interesting or important but if it is to my partner, I make an effort to know a little about those. I think that the least a person can do to show you care. Thank you 🙏 appreciate it.
@Kelly it’s exactly what I did this morning. Sent it in a separate message to the morning message. 🤗 x
@Julia this made me laugh, because I’m also like this which is why my phone calendar might burst with reminders. 🤣 Sent him a message, and said he can plan something for us to do Saturday evening.
This is a tricky subject because some people are genuinely forgetful, especially if you have a lot going on and a demanding job. Regardless, I know it’s not an excuse, but these things do happen. My Husband forgets a lot of things and I used to get mad at him. Overall,this was something so small in comparison to all of the great things that he does for us on a regular basis and he’s the type to bring me flowers or a a cute detail on any random day. I just decided to take a different approach. Months before birthdays, anniversaries, or trips. I just have a conversation with him on what we would like to do and we plan it before hand, if he doesn’t have the time I just tell him to give me a couple options and I take care of the planning because I know im also better at getting deals and organizing things in general. You can ask him to set an alarm on his phone and maybe take turns each year planning it. It’s ok to remind him instead of waiting to see if he forgets.