AITA ??

People are really dumb like how you wanna see my child on my day that’s to be spent with my baby I’m not wasting my day sitting around yall 😂

@Abreonna EXACTLYYY like why would I want to spend my day with y’all ? what are y’all doing for me 😂 why would I want to spend it with my baby daddy’s mom, be so fr 😂

Not only that why would you wanna spend it around some half ass inconsistent ass mfs it’s a no for me could never I would’ve sent a 😂😵‍💫🥴 and left it at that cause it’s a hard no for me babe they’re delusional asf

@Abreonna they’re soooo inconsistent, never wanted to spend Christmas, thanksgiving, new years, Easter or nun of that with the baby but now all the sudden they want to spend Mother’s Day with us ? delusional asfff 🥴🥴🥴

The amount of posts I’ve seen lately about inconsistent or basically non existent men asking to take the kids on Mother’s Day is unreal… like just NO?????

He’s lying to his family saying you’re crazy and keeping the child from him and he tries so hard I just know it - karma will get him & his lies

@Elizabeth the audacity of these fathers is crazyyyyy fr 😂🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

@Elizabeth he does, I’ve gotten into it with him mom before but never do I keep the baby away they just expect me to drop everything I’m doing and go over there when it’s convenient for them which I don’t do anymore and now they can’t stand me 🤷🏻‍♀️

The fact that she couldn’t even lie and say they wanted to celebrate you on YOUR day😅😩just “we all wanna see the baby”🤪girl bye

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The gall bladder to even attempt is maaaad

I would cut all contact with her and block her until your BD realises how to communicate with you himself instead of hiding behind his mums skirt! Not the asshole ! You deserve one day to be celebrated and if he has an issue with that tell him to do one

Girl you're better then me lol I'd be letting them take the baby for mothers day so I can go enjoy ME . I have my kids 24/7 and love them dearly but it's mothers day I want self care and stuff away from my daily duty as a mother. Now when my kids get off the age to Celebrate me on mother's day(8+) I will then start spending my mother's day with them. If they know your not going to let baby go without you going on any day of course they will invite you to try to make it easier for them.

@Morgan exactly 😂 like you spend it with your kids and I’ll spend it with my child, thank ya 😂✋🏼

@Naomi that’s a good point ! I’ve been thinking about it but I don’t ever want him to be able to bring it up in court because he’s threatened with taking me to court before but then again he has me blocked on everything so ik that’s worse 🥴but yeah that’s definitely why I kept telling her okay he can contact me more then once because I just knew he wasn’t going to.

Threatening to take you to court for what? The man hasn’t seen or tried to see his kid for over a month. Courts would laugh him out ! Obviously it’s a shit situation to be in bur I would even message the mother and tell her you no longer will be communicating to your BD through her and if he wishes to make arrangements with you himself then he can do so and I would say thank you for your help but I will no longer be responding to you.

@Ona your point if very valid, if he was a better father i probably would and if they asked that directly I maybe just maybe would of thought about it. but nun of those seem to be it. the baby is only 7 months, also EBF (I have pumped milk) but he’s also never even heated up a bottle with that milk, changed a diaper, or watched the baby alone. Him and my mom have watched her while I ran errands before and he left before I could even get back because he “had to leave” his mother also doesn’t respect my parenting rules and always says she’s going to give the baby formula so she can “stay the night” or begs me to let her stay the night, she also always tries to kiss my baby which is sooo nasty to me. 🥴🥴 but like you said they know I won’t let her go over without me that’s why they “invited” me over there, not to spend Mother’s Day with me but to see my baby, to get their cake and eat it too.

Yeah you can kinda see right through them really.

@Naomi he honestly does it because he’s a narcissist and I’ve figured out how he works now so of course I work around it and he can’t stand that, so I know for a fact he only says it because he knows it gets to me because I know he really don’t want the full responsibility of a child 24/7 🥴 so just out of spite really. but I’m definitely going to tell her that next time she reaches out. it’s crazy because yesterday I even told my mom I have a feeling they were going to reach out or they were going to ask for the baby on Mother’s Day and it so happened 😂 even when he reached out to my mom she told him the same thing, that he has to reach out to me because she’s not going to be in the middle of it.

Don’t be afraid to hold your own ! I’m sure you’re a fabulous mum and as you say he’s a narcissist and a twisted nasty peace of work !!! ❤️

@Naomi thank you so much for the advice and reassurance 💜

Not the ahole. Frankly the Dad seems dodgy, bet you money he won't message you directly probably cause latest gf will get pissy he is texting you to see the baby so he gets his mama to do it for him. Maybe gf doesn't even know he has a baby.. haha what an ass. Anyway, have a wonderful mother's day with your little bub and take lots of photos and make memories together ok! 😊

@Kate I already know he ain’t message me directly. His gf does know he has a baby I’ve texted her before asking her to ask him to come help with the baby. They’re always out together, I’ve told her how he is, I’m guessing she’s okay with it 🤷🏻‍♀️but thank you.

It’s weird you keep saying you didn’t have a baby with his family. His family is your baby’s family too, whether you like it or not. They have a right to be in the baby’s life too. & if you actually let them, and they got attached, then they would probably start making your non-present child’s father be a part of his child’s life too. But instead you push them all away, confirming to them that you don’t let him see the baby either smh.

@Michelle I’m sorry did we read the same thing? The mom also treats her like shit so how are you gonna connect with someone who’s obviously toxic for you and your baby? If they act like the mom doesn’t matter imagine what they could do to that baby for revenge or worse. I’ve met some crazy people in this world and honestly it’s weird they wanna reach out on MOTHERS DAY when they know she already has plans. The dad isn’t gonna change his ways just because of his family.

@Michelle also you acting weird up in these comments when everyone else agrees with her…. Are you..the baby daddy??? 😭😭

@Michelle so Ms Michelle let me come correct, obviously she feels comfortable enough to text me about the baby so OBVIOUSLY I don’t keep the baby away. they just expect me to put in the effort all the time which ain’t happening because it’s been a lot of one sided bs. I’ve clearly tried with them even with the baby’s dad not around, they know he isn’t around they can’t “make” a grown ass man do his responsibilities. and like Patience said they’re toxic so I’m done trying with them. And I STILL DONT keep the baby away, they just don’t put effort to come see her, only when its convenient to them. like I said which ain’t happening with me, no one is going to play with my child’s feelings by picking and choosing, and also disrespecting me, no ma’am. anyways you have a blessed day.

@Patience LMAOOOO, whole time she’s the baby daddy’s girlfriend behind a fake page 😂😂😂

Literally 😭 she said hold up let me just take a pic of my fingers real quick and boom let’s get this beef started… and honestly she JUST made this page so I’m wondering

She asked nicely to celebrate with you for the holiday & you just rudely blew her off. She politely ignored that and asked about the evening instead, and you doubled down & was even more rude! You’re 🗑️❗️💁‍♀️

@Patience This was posted incognito so how would the family even find this post and know it was her to comment on it come on use your 🧠 🙄

@Michelle girl use your brain. The messages are a clear sign anyways. Any person that knew her could’ve seen the messages and story and connected dots. Not everyone is as clueless as you. How about hop off this comment section and go take ur nasty ass opinion elsewhere when you’re clearly not understanding her situation and can’t be nice about it. Also I was just joking with the OP fuck outta here lmao

@Michelle you obviously didn’t read or don’t know how to comprehend “🧠🙄” ??? lol but you’re right I’m straight trash 💁🏻‍♀️🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼 as long as it makes sense to you honey bunch.

@Michelle someone’s panties are in a bunch

@Patience the MIL’s messages were all polite and respectful. Her messages were all rude and distant. The OP is not always the one in the right! Why always immediately side with the OP??? Read the SS and use context clues and you’d clearly see OP is the bad guy in this situation! But you’re over here defending a stranger smh. Maybe you are secretly her fake side account just defending herself! 🤣

@Michelle like I said you obviously didn’t read or can’t comprehend, with that being said and other MOTHERS even agreed to what was being said and how I felt I know I’m not in the wrong. you must have no self respect or respect for your children if you would let them and you continuously go around people like that.

@Michelle girl lol- this isn’t the first instance this has happened as you can assume.. you don’t know really what lead to OP breaking point. She’s obviously tired of it. She wouldn’t have posted this as a last straw to see if she’s in the wrong if this was just her “being rude” to the mom just because. There is also a thing of acting nice to get your way like idk seeing a child that you don’t really care for but wanna make yourself feel better about the situation once in a blue moon. She’s stated this woman has canceled plenty of times. The dad didn’t even have the respect to text her himself. I mean I’d be pissed too if my baby daddy can’t message me about there kid themselves or care about me on Mother’s Day.

@Michelle also I’m clearly not the fake side account as I’m very active on here and am cool with the rest of the people on here and post often 😭 welcome to peanut

I read everything. She doesn’t sound that bad! So what if she couldn’t make it the one time you told her you were available. You also weren’t available when she asked you! That’s normal! At least she’s trying and wants to see the baby, especially despite having to go through a sour puss like you. 😒

Kinda sounds like they didn't invite you to come along? Is the baby not allowed to go with her dad without you?

@👑Jess👑 she is not, she’s EBF (which ain’t a problem I can pump) but he’s never even done anything for her such as change a diaper, heated up milk nun of that sort. she’s only 7 months old and they also don’t respect my parenting with just little stuff like trying to give her foods that I said no to. “Mommas not looking here” kissing her on her face, saying their going to give her formula. etc.

Easy problem to solve.. it’s his family, let him arrange for them to see his baby. All communications should go through him unless stated otherwise 🧹🚮

@Cydnee I agree ! But he’s childish and I guess hasn’t came to terms he’s the father and needs to communicate. but therefore I cut communication with his mother. they never wanted to reach out before why now.