Birth trauma
Does anyone else feel really triggered when they hear someone (they know) had such a positive birth? Despite all the preparation in the world I had a rubbish time and I just found out someone who did no prep at all just went in blind, popped her baby out in 1.5 hours. It just feel so unfair that I never got my ideal birth and I’ll never have any form of birth positivity because it’s been destroyed 💔 for context I am planning on having a c section for my next child so won’t try a “natural” birth again x
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Yeh mine was absolutely horrendous and had 3 days of labour. I honestly don’t know if I could do it again
In case you aren’t aware, most birth centres will offer you a birth debrief to discuss your notes, maybe explain the reasons why your birth went the way it did and help you to grieve the birth you wanted but didn’t get. I did an NHS birth debrief and then ended up paying for a private one (check out mixing up motherhood on Instagram) she’s amazing!! I went into my 2nd birth determined to stand my ground with my wants and needs, communicate with the midwives instead of them essentially controlling my birth and I had an amazing natural 2nd birth. I hope you manage to process your 1st birth and helps you for the 2nd 😊
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I've found it really hard coming to terms with my own birth, it was 100% not what I wanted and I only listened to positive birth stories beforehand - like I thought that could change my birth! What I've found has helped is thinking about the small positives of the birth, like my partner showering me down during contractions or the midwives cheering me on during pushing. But it is really hard hearing these lovely stories of water births and breathing the baby out! 💖