Tell them to use new words to describe her or you will seek a new school but before doing that look for an alternative in the event you need to leave that school. I don’t like things like that either bc they can develop a complex. I would have a meeting with the principal or owner and the teacher and explain this
Why is she saying your child is shy in front of your child? Seems strange and you might have to be more assertive to get this resolved. Especially because switching schools every time you don’t like something is unreasonable and doesn’t solve anything. It’ll teach your child to run from problems instead of directly facing them.
I was labeled as shy when I was really little and even up to high school. Yes, she should word it as a feeling just like bashful, anxious, etc. Being labeled as shy made other kids not to be my friend, and I even had parents tell me and their kid that they shouldn't be my friend because I was "shy." When all they had to do was talk to me, make me feel comfortable, get to know me. Now, as an adult, I am horrible at conventions. Tell her it's a feeling not a label. And plus she's so young, she shouldn't be labeled anything at all!
I think you are going overboard here. Shy is not a bad thing but ask the teacher to use a different word. Just flat out say you don’t like that label and want her to use a different one
Maybe you need to tell her what words to say if she doesn't know. She could say, "When she is ready, she will join in." I would definitely talk to the teacher with the principal or preschool owner. Being told she is shy can really affect how she sees herself.
When I brought it up to the teacher and asked if there was a better approach she could not give me an answer