Feel like I’m mourning my natural birth

I feel the same the only reason they want me to have a c section is bc I have mild anemia. I didn't get a say what I want. So now c section around the 20th of next month. This will be a repeat and I feel so robbed. I had to get a c section my last birth bc baby ended up weighing 10 pounds 8.1 oz

I totally understand. I was grieving a lot for a long time after my section. At least a year. Let yourself grieve. And once you heal and the scar gets smaller and you're stronger, it will all feel good. I grieved enough, and now I accept it, knowing we're all healthy. It was still a birth. Some vaginal births leave big scars too and problems for life. Take care of yourself. Love every part.

I grieve a natural birth... but I was dying and he was bum down (it was too dangerous to turn him due to my declining health) so I had no choice but to have a c-section

I grieve it too. Back in Feb 2019 I had to have an emergency C-section because I was hemorrhaging and dying and they had to get her out quick so they could save me. She ended up passing away 22 hours later. But with her birth I did feel contractions and oh they did not feel good at all. It’s not for the weak let me tell you that. I’m guessing that’s why you can get an epidural. But because of her birth and her being born at only 22 weeks and 3 days pregnant, the way they cut my uterus with her, with any subsequent pregnancies that were after her I have to have csections at/in my 37th week. Because doctors don’t want my uterus to rupture if I go into labor. I’m currently pregnant with hopefully our second earth side baby. We have had a missed miscarriage (first), our infant death (second), and then we had a successful pregnancy in 2021 to 2022 with our son, and now this one in 2024/2025. I’m due March of next year. I’ll have my 3rd C-section.

Totally normal I feel like this too. I was in labour for 14 hours but with complications I didn't get to experience pushing my baby girl out into the world. And I'm aware that a VBAC isn't always possible 🫤

Same! Kind of... I've had a vaginal labour but I had to be induced. My next 3 labours all c sections so I feel bummed that I've never had a spontaneous labour

i understand you, my babygirl is my first and after a week of induction had to have an emergency c section 🥹 she weighed 9lb 15 at birth bless her so it would’ve been hard to push her out regardless. i had to be cut open and still expected to be mobile after having her, that is 100% still a natural birth and i’m so proud of my body for being able to keep her safe xx