Negative pregnancy comments

Why is it so impossible for people to be happy for a pregnant women? If I’m happy because my baby is kicking, your response should not be anything about how uncomfortable kicks could possibly be. If I say I want a natural birth, your response should not be to tell me your traumatic labor story etc. I should be allowed to feel happy about the baby growing in my body and life to be after birth. Have you experienced this? What were your thoughts?
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They want everyone else miserable because they were/are.

You should absolutely feel happy about the baby growing in your body! 😍 Yes, I also experienced the negative, unsolicited comments when I was pregnant too. It was always the “just wait untils”….super annoying and can be discouraging at times but don’t let it get you down! enjoy every moment ❤️

Yes gosh some people are just so mean and miserable! My husband and I didn’t plan our baby, but we were still extremely happy and excited for the blessing when we found out. When we later announced to our friends, one of our friends said that we rushed it and should have thought more about it before my husband impregnated me…didn’t even congratulate us during that convo 🙃. The audacity of people. I am still salty to this day. We are all the same age group and they were/are actively trying…if that’s relevant

Feeling the same tho. Everyone has such negative “just wait until” but I’m just enjoying every second with my rainbow baby since you never know what can happen had someone tell me I don’t need to be trying rn but I’m so grateful to be in a position to try

Same. I hate how everyone says children are life’s greatest blessing, but when I say I’m super excited for my baby, it’s all “you’re never gonna sleep” “get ready to hate everything” “you’ll never have a life again” “say goodbye to everything you like” “your marriage will never be the same” “good luck trying to go on a date” etc etc 😒😒 like do y’all just hate your kids? 💀

@Clue yup!!

PERIOD !! Say it louder for the people in the back 🫶🏼

Misery loves Company 🗣️

All the time!🙄🙄 the way some people are about it I’m convinced they hate their kids. Baby wasn’t planned but i’m over the moon and all i ever hear is “just wait”. I’m tired - “just wait”, i’m happy - “just wait”. “Kids will ruin your life” like girl you are saying that in front of your child are you okay??? I’ve never been a people person anyway but i hate people since being pregnant because of all this

@Amber this!! I was saying to my partner the other day that I’m convinced these people just hate their kids🤣 i think some people never actually wanted to be mums they just wanted a baby

@Amber this!! What you said is how I felt…like dang, I’m sorry your life sucks 😅 idk if you had your baby yet but after my daughter was born in June I called her “this summers hottest accessory” because I just took her everywhere with me 🤷🏽‍♀️ and pretty much still do! I personally love it! You still have a life, it just takes you a little longer to get places bc you have to pack like you’re going on a cruise just to get to the store but you figure it out ! 😂🙏🏽

I would be happy about your pregnancy and not listen to anyone else. I deal with the same thing whenever I tell someone that I'm pregnant because my oldest and current baby are 2 years apart and my oldest is in my mom's custody at the moment. I just ignore the comments at this point and enjoy that my sweet baby will be here anyday and if no one likes it they don't have to be in his life.

Often they don't even realise they're doing it

personally i have friends and that are in their first and second trimester mean while im in my 3rd and boutta have this baby lol, but id tell them how exciting it is, and “just wait till you hear their heart beat for the first time” “just wait till you start to feel their little kicks” “just wait till you start to see them move from the outside” “just wait till you see them through an ultrasound” “just wait till you hold them in your arms for the first time” yea birth isn’t easy for the mom or baby, but it definitely is so rewarding at the end. i’ve been told by my family how tired i’m going to be with a toddler and a newborn but i’m just looking at the “wait till they start to play with each other” moments

True, Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him, said, “ speak goodness or remain silent.” If someone cant sth good no need to kill off everybody's joy Enjoy every single kick 😘😘 i did and after giving birth now anytime i am bloated i remember how lovely the kicks were 🤣🤣 it makes me wanna have another one

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I was laughing with my toddler on the bus once and a lady commented’ just wait till you have a teenager’ to which I replied ‘actually I already have one’ her face dropped 😂

What shocked me the most while being pregnant, was how many middle aged women gave me dirty looks! It’s possible some of these women thought I was a teenager, but regardless, I was surprised at how frequently women seemed keen to be judgemental about my pregnancy. (I’m 23 for reference haha)

@Isabela what a fantastic way to uplift your friends. You’re awesome

@Mariah “summers hottest accessory” Omgggg how cute is that?!?! I’m sure you guys had the best summer ever too

@Katie 100% we didn’t plan for my baby either but we are overjoyed and can’t wait for his arrival. Everyone is entitled to feel happy or even unhappy about their baby. Both can be valid without trying to discredit the other

I get what you’re saying for sure But could u also imagine how you would feel if a non pregnant person was trying to connect with you and said “ when I had my kid is was so smooth and easy, I didn’t have any issues , etc “ 🤣 I think that would make me feel worse about myself

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