Comments about having a ‘needy’ baby

More of a rant post really lol. So my LG is almost 8 months and recently she is reluctant to go to people she doesn’t know well. I’ve had a few people say now comments like ‘oh my baby was never like that’ or ‘I’m so glad I didn’t have a needy baby, my baby would go to anyone’. I think I’ve being oversensitive but it just made me feel like I’m doing something wrong by my baby and that she shouldn’t be this way. I know it’s a completely normal stage babies/children go through, just annoying comments. Is anyone else’s baby like this? Thanks in advance!!
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I had that with my first kid, my partners family would call him mummy's boy. There is absolutely no issue with ur kid wanting to be with you, it shows that you have a good bond and that your child is a loving sensitive soul. Don't let anyone else's comments affect this, you're doing a great job and your kid is perfect how they are 💕 xxxx

My daughter is the same! I think its great because it shows we have a strong bond and its the same for you! I always say she is great at communicating her needs☺️

My daughter is the same, she feels safe and secure with me. If they don’t like the fact that she’d rather be with me than them they should have spent more time with us 🤷‍♀️ I’m glad she’d rather be with me. She’ll gain confidence in her own time xx

Thank you all for your comments! I appreciate it and it’s make me feel a lot better!💗 xxx

Mine is the same he absolutely sobs when me or my partner leave the room. Especially me if he can’t see me. He loves my parents too and is often like that with them too but anyone else he gets quite upset if he was being held by them. it’s not a bad thing, they don’t understand when or if you’re coming back . X

You’re not doing anything wrong but your baby looks to you for cues when with others that they might not know or be comfortable with so if you want them to feel more confident around others, there’s things you can do to encourage them. I found my LO was clingy when my family visited. They live far away and so essentially are strangers to her if she hasn’t seen them for a month. I’m always here with EBF so it’s completely understandable behaviour albeit frustrating. Sometimes you just want a break I’ve started to video call them often so she recognises their voices and faces more. I used to take her when they held her and she cried but that only reinforced that there was something to fear so we all sit down together now and play first, then after a day or so she loves them

My eldest was the exact same, sometimes it’s a phase and sometimes it’s their temperament. For my little girl it was a phase because she’s so confident now, but the first year of her life she would only let me hold her and would cry if anyone else tried! It felt a bit embarrassing, but I leant into it and decided not to push it, she stayed with me until she felt safe enough to go to other people. My youngest is the opposite, happy to go to anyone, so it’s definitely not something we’re doing, each baby is completely different!!

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