I’m 6 weeks postpartum and it is still painful but it is manageable with a toddler and newborn. My LO was 20 months too! My toddler kisses my tummy and tries to make it better, bless her! When she wanted cuddles I would sit down and bring her up to me rather than lift her while standing. I avoided putting her in the cot at night for the first 4/5 weeks (my husband would do this) but lifting her out of her cot in the mornings was alright! I think just keep a close eye on how it feels/looks - it’s very easy to just get on with it when you have 2 under 2, but I ended up with a uterus infection that would have gone unnoticed had I not gone to the doctor about something else and they picked up on it. It was really really tender above my scar (to the point I couldn’t stand the doctor touching it) and I thought it was normal but it wasn’t! Good luck with everything - it’s chaos most of the time but 2 under 2 is the best thing ever!! X
My little girl was 18 months and is really clingy. I sat on the sofa and got her to sit on me that way when she wanted picking up but you just end up picking them up. I found this time round my recovery was amazing and I was so nervous having a toddler but was easy. If you have someone with you for atleast the first week you will be fine! Keep on top of your pain meds though!
My daughter was 2 years old when my son was born, I was picking her up after 5 days. Was a planned c section and was much quicker recovery than my previous emergency c section. I’m really glad I went for the planned section, I was running again 8 weeks after 👍
Also it helps being pregnant before (I stopped picking up my toddler and sat down for cuddles while heavily pregnant) so she was used to it! X
You will pick up your other baby and it is hard, I don’t think you can’t not pick up your first. However because you can’t just wallow I think the recovery is easier. Keep analgesia in your nappy caddy at hand and keep on top of it. Maybe see if you can get your toddler into nursery for an extra day a week, that’s what we did. The days he didn’t go to nursery my husband took as annual leave for the first four weeks after it. I was at the farm 5 days PP 😂