How do you know when it’s over or just going through rough time?

So my husband and I have been together for over 11 years since we were 17 and married for 5. We have lived in our own home for 4 years and just recently moved back in (temporarily) back with my parents with our daughter. So, our marriage didn’t have a smooth beginning and we actually had endured a lot of issues in the beginning but we would be content with each other overall. We enjoy each other’s company and love doing things together. However, our sex lives have always suffered cause I’ve been not well since giving birth 5 years ago. So, this past week we had intimacy and when we were intimate I felt a little off emotionally with my husband. I felt like I was having sex with a stranger and like I wasn’t feeling the love between us. I felt like I was desiring something else and felt disconnected from him. I ended up crying after and feeling like voided inside after we had stopped. So, I don’t know what it is that I’m feeling and I’m hoping someone could give some guidance even if you don’t know the whole story but it could still help me. I would appreciate that!
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Have a talk with him. I don’t think one time constitutes the relationship being over. You may need to get the intimacy back between the two of you and the sex will be like it used to be.

People are quick to suggest divorce but I’m going to suggest against it. It’s difficult but talk with your husband.

It’s better than being alone right? You’ve already conquered so much together, try again and again x

the intimacy is more important sex comes later. I would try to basically redate him. Like try a date night or just a walk you and him. Have some wine and play a board game, anything. You live with you parents again so maybe they can babysit for like 30 minutes or something. I’ve only been with my fiancé for 6 years but after having my son I felt completely uninterested in him all together. We’ve had many talks where I’ve been so raw and honest and just said sex isn’t happening for me rn until I feel some romance and peace in my life. Living with family can be so hard on relationship (I just moved out my fil house so I speak from experience) it really takes honesty and communication. Women are so different then men, sex tends to be more emotionally connected for women. I don’t want to overstep at all or assume anything ab your relationship. I was just giving opinion after going thru something similar. Hope it all works out mama feel free to message me if you ever wanna clear your head 🫶🏼

If he's a stranger, you could get to know him again. You could try seeing a sex therapist to work on your connection, but when you suggest it say you want it to "rekindle the flames". 🔥🔥 Say you had a close friend try it and gush about it, or that you read an amazing article about how it has completely changed people's lives. It doesn't have to be true. Just the suggestion may give him a few ideas of his own. 😉

It doesn't sound over to me it sounds like a path/chance has opened up to rediscover each other. Learn that stranger in your house and maybe relearn yourself as well. I've heard and seen relationships hit dry patches for yeaaaaaarrrrssss and come back 10x stronger. Maybe this is something yall can work on on your own maybe you'll need therapy regardless I don't think it's over. To me for a marriage to be over something big a vow or trust has to be broken in a major way to even consider it. Though this is hard. There is still a light at the end of the tunnel there are still paths you can take. Hey tbh I think about 5 Real intimate Juicy and interesting dates could honestly bring yall back better than you may think. Intimacy is so much more than just sex. Really dig deep and remember wat your fighting for. Get to know this stranger. You may love them more than you did before 💓

@Kayla Marie ✨ thank you Kayla ❤️ You were so spot on and helpful 🥰

@Kayla Marie ✨ if i ever need a listening ear I will surely take you up on your request 💟

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