Hi! Therapist here. Thank you for sharing this, it’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed right now. Anger often masks an underlying emotion. What else are you feeling when this comes up? Is it exhaustion, frustration, or maybe a need for more support? Reflecting on this and talking openly with your husband about what you need could help. You’re taking an important first step by recognizing this.
The idea that “anger is never about the other person but oneself”, as Rubi suggested, holds some truth - anger often reflects unmet needs or unresolved emotions within us. However, it’s not always that simple. Anger can also be a response to external factors, like feeling disrespected or unsupported by someone else. While it’s important to explore what’s happening inside, it’s equally valid to acknowledge when others’ actions contribute to those feelings. Be kind to yourself as you navigate these emotions - anger is a signal that something needs care and attention.
Sounds like how I feel now with my daughter dad. I struggled with pre partum depression and post partum. Talk to your primary care to get a therapist.
It’s never about the other person. Is there any part of you angry at yourself? Maybe try meditating on those feelings when you’re having them to see where they really come from