How often do you cry?

I'm not pregnant and my kids are older, so it's no post partum hormones, but I cry almost everyday. I have always cried in private, but I have a friend now that is around me often and I started letting my guard down and crying in front of him. He said he's concerned that I am sad so often. I also feel concerned. I eat healthy and try to stay active...doing things that will increase serotonin and oxytocin production, but I still am so stressed. I see a therapist weekly, but have trouble pin pointing what the source of the issue is. I'm very sensitive and often feel like a failure. I'm sad right now because I feel like so much of my life was wasted being in an abusive relationship for 14 years and now that I'm out, I'm struggling with being a single mom. I'm getting older and there is so much I want to do, but anxiety and constant sadness leaves me stuck in my apartment all the time and sometimes battling with suicidal thoughts. So aside from venting and needing encouraging words, I'm also wondering how often other struggling moms cry or feel defeated.
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Every single day. Pregnant and cry over not even emotional videos but just kid related content.

You need a really good therapist.. some are so good that they will ask questions, help you process your feelings and help ypu locate the root cause and sometimes we are still stuck in somethings due to what happened in our own childhood or with friendships or at school.. it could be anything. There is always a reason and it's important to identify to resolve your issue.. else those feelings won't go away

Are you willing to try medication? Therapy can definitely be helpful, but sometimes our brains just aren't doing what they should be doing, and we need extra help. Anti depressants or anti anxiety meds can be life changing. I tend to have little cries about silly stuff when what I really need is a BIG cry. Have you had a full, let it all out cry? Like, watch a sad movie and cry for 30 straight minutes and just get EVERYTHING out cry. If we are trying to hold it all in, it can burst out of us when we aren't expecting it/don't want it to.

Do you journal? Maybe try writing down what you're crying about daily to see a pattern and work from there That's alot!! I'm so sorry you're going thru that yes I think medication would help balance you hell maybe even weed or alcohol lol And yea a good therapist because is your therapy really benefitting you do they give you homework and aid in solutions or they just listen and book another session which ain't it

@Ashley I'm glad I'm not alone 🤗

@Shriya I agree with you. I feel as though I could be getting more out of therapy if I were seeing someone who used a different modality of therapy. There are so many different types of therapy. I may need something more intensive or focused.

@Taylor Sooo I really try to avoid medication as much as possible. I'm a bit of a naturopath, but I am willing to try herbs like St. John's Wort, which could possibly help with mood regulation. I replaced coffee with chamomile tea in the mornings to reduce anxious symptoms and that helped a lot. I have definitely had a big cry. I normally love those, because even though they can be scary and that's when the scary thoughts surface....I usually feel a little better the next day. I just feel like they shouldn't occur as often as they have been.

@Priscilla I journal daily, and it's been helpful in the past, but lately I feel like the relief and inspiration it brings out is very short lived, lasting only a few minutes. I smoke herbs before going to bed and that helps me unwind at the end of the day. I do feel like my therapist isn't a good fit for me and I may need to start there.

Thank you ladies for your responses. I'm starting to wonder if maybe I have a hormonal imbalance that could be contributing. And it seems like maybe it's time to switch therapists!

I don't think it's normal to cry everyday Hun. Life shouldn't be about suffering. Please find some help. Therapy to take out of your chest what should be. I do cry every 3-5 weeks when I get very tired or hormonal due to period. Nothing more. But I had other moment in life I cried everyday and something was wrong.

You definitely sound depressed. St John's Wort has really good evidence behind it. No, I wouldn't say it's normal to cry every day. I cry a few times a year.

I have been in an abusive relationship which lasted a decade, as well as being bullied as a child which also lasted about a decade. Violence can hurt you even after it has stopped, whether it be physical, sexual, psychological etc violence. I would highly recommend seeing a therapist who specializes in trauma. If you’re lucky they have group therapy for moms with abusive exes (which is where I healed and learned the most).

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