Baby don’t love me

Hey how old is your daughter? X

@Sirin H 4 weeks I onow people say they don’t for lm bonds that early but it really feels that way xx

I feel like this every single day I assure you. I find getting out with my son everyday helps even if it’s just a 5 minute walk so he can stare at something other than me. Hes 6 months old and always acts happier when he’s with other people or when people walk through the door from work. I ended up taking him to baby sensory classes and on those days he’s like a completely different baby because he’s had interaction. My son is high maintenance and has loads of toys and bored of every single one of them. However I believe I have postpartum rage - not towards him but things that just stress me out and irritate me so bad like him crying all day. It does come underneath the category for postnatal depression and I’m always convinced my baby hates me too which again can be apart of that. You’re not doing anything wrong! I assure you, it’s just that babies are with us all day every day so we get the brunt end of everything. Also because they’re so used to seeing us anyone else is like a

Breath of fresh air/someone new to look at. I’m the same though! As soon as my partner walks through the door he takes our son so I can breathe and have my breath of fresh air and chill xx

The first 6 weeks are the hardest. Have you tried baby wearing? If not get a wrap and try it. It helped me so much.

1.Hiya sweetheart I was exactly where you are 8 weeks ago, I didn’t feel the “instant love” everybody talks about, my daughter would constantly cry on me, I felt like I was doing a shit job. I was overwhelmed and guilty for not feeling the way everyone says I should have been. But I promise you that it gets better, you have to remember babies at such a young age are so keen to learn new smells sounds and lights. She knows your smell she knows your sound and unfortunately you aren’t a light bulb so in the most blatant of term your boring to her! She knows she safe with you and that you’re her home but 1-12 week babies learn so much and are so nosey and curious! When you feed try encouraging her to look in yoir eyes (play with her hair, talk to her ect) feeding is such an effective way to bond! Also try more skin to skin! I baby wear topless sometimes! Also contact naps!! Remember darling you’re a new mum and it’s hard but give yourself some credit! Your hormones are out of whack..

2. … youre probably still in pain and you’re tired. Not feeling like you’re a good mum or that you don’t do enough is normal, you’re human so don’t put so much pressure on yourself. I’m not going to lie to you and say things get better over night because they don’t. But I can promise you that they will eventually. You’re doing great mumma x