I LOVE and ADORE my baby but….

My baby girl is 5 months and I love her to death!! however I still don’t feel that mother instinct 100%. more like 70%. I don’t feel completely bonded with her cause she’s an infant who can’t talk or understand anything and doesn’t have much of a personality. when did you feel 100% bonded with your little one? I hate how big she’s getting but I lowkey look forward to her getting older, talking, or at least understanding, and having more of a personality because I think I’ll be more bonded to her and it’ll make this single mom journey seem so much more worth it. It’s only hard because my pregnancy was kinda traumatic and I’ve been dealing with PPD and being a single mom but I yearn to feel completely bonded with my daughter. Did it take some time or was it overnight for you?
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It took some time! Don’t dwell on it!

Totally normal:)

I felt the same way, now that hes nearly 6 months and has a bit more personality im feeling more of the mother instincts. What i did is i included him in what i like to do, like play games, go for walks, go to the park and played on the swings and slides, or stayed home and watched tv and play video games with him on my lap

It still hasn't fully kicked in, I struggle to even hear her cries once I'm asleep to the point I can wake up. Thankfully I've had family to help. The first week everything kicked in right away, but once post partum settled it's like i completely regressed and struggle to be around her when I'm always anxious or depressed or both. Me and her father have been really struggling even since pregnancy and things that happened in that time period. I just feel resentment all the time :( I love my daughter more than anything. And I'm glad she's here, but if I could have her just with a different man and time period in my life I would choose that option. Being homeless with toxic family and partner sucks! But she keeps me going and fighting everyday. So I believe she was sent to me at the right time 💕💕

I felt the same way with my first! Definitely by the time he started walking we were a lot more bonded and having a more interesting time.

I felt more bonded when I could actually sleep 😅

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