Infuriating comments

you should make leaving him be the best thing that could have happened in your life 🤷‍♀️ no but really, yes, you're definitely justified in feeling some type of way about it. did he say why?

Yeah I’m considering leaving! He said that she has made it that he can’t travel and can’t go to college. He is 27, he should have thought about these things sooner

but why can't he go to college? 🧐 was it something he was planning to do before you fell pregnant?

He has always planned to do it eventually but every time he started he dropped out and now he says he won’t be able to afford it. I’ve given every option I can think of to help him but he’s set that he can’t do it because of the baby

then that's a him problem. he's just making excuses and possibly setting the foundation for making a case to split up. there are thousands of single moms that go to school and work a full time job with a baby. if he really wants to go that badly then he'd find a way to make it work. sounds like he just wants to complain about having to actually be a dad

Nah I would say to him exactly what @Sarah said! Also that would make sure he don't go college or travel coz, child support! I'm so angry for you, that's a nasty selfish thing to say, he should wrap it up next time if he don't want more worse things

This is one of my biggest fears. My current pregnancy was an accident. His dad has said things along the lines of ruining his life or what a disruption this is. I was raised feeling like an inconvenience and I do not ever want my son to know what that feels like. Yes he was accidental, but I wanted him the minute I knew. If this man ever says this to our son, I swear to god he might not make it to morning. What a terrible thing to say. Yes you should be furious. What to do about it, I do not know.

@Radka exactly! He acts as if it was a choice I made but we were both at fault in getting pregnant but I am delighted because I was told I’d never have kids and she’s my little miracle

@Jessica what I don’t understand is his dad left him and he has always resented that but now he speaks like this about our daughter! I’m so upset for her and have been apologising to her all day that he happens to be her dad

@op my BD too! I have held him when he cried about feeling like a mistake. Like you want that feeling to be genetic?! I just don’t think that men make those connections as easily as we do. It’s not an excuse, just obvious. You don’t have anything to apologize to your daughter for, without him you wouldn’t have her. I think that everyday. For you, there was no mistake. Just remind her all the time you love her and you’re happy to have her. She didn’t ruin anyone’s life, she just changed it. If he can’t see it’s for the better, that’s not your fault and it’s not hers.

He’s just inconsistent and blaming anything as to why he hasn’t finished college. Now it’s the baby. Men, I swear. Anything but take accountability of their character. Some men use their kids as fuel to succeed not an excuse. He needs to grow up.