Visitors at hospital
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Honestly I wouldn’t even give her the time of day or show her I give a crap. Respect it or F off is how I’d deal with it but dats me and I’m an asshole 😁🤷🏻♀️
@Sophie this is the plan! We only felt like we had to prewarn because she kept making comments about “waiting outside in the hospital car park” I had to quickly tell my partner to shut that down! X
Nahhh I would be exact the same. Nobody seeing me in hospital 😆 they can wait until I'm home, at least brushed my hair and my son has lots of cuddles with new baby before anyone else. If she attempts to come during your hospital stay just tell midwives you have requested no visitors
The only person I've told no visitors to is my dad as he will then not bring my mum to see me as he knows I've said no visitors at the hospital and she won't come by herself. I would say just don't say anything until you are home and even then you could say we will let you know on x day when we will be ready for visitors or not tell them until you are ready. She will get over it or have a very fractured relationship with her son going forward. As long partner is supporting and up holding that boundary you shouldn't have an issue
Does your MIL only have sons? I 100% understand where you're coming from but also as a mum of 3 boys I genuinely have a fear that way in the future when I'm going to be the mother in law, I know I won't be the first choice grandmother, so maybe its just a case where shes feeling left out? My MIL is an addict, and genuinely is an actual nightmare, so she won't be seeing our newborn in hospital or at home!
From experience recently, I found having visitors in the hospital a lot less overwhelming than when I returned home! My hospital would only allow visitors between 2-5pm, so me and my partner got lots of time as a 3 to adjust etc .. then we only had our parents visit on different days .. meant when we got home we could lock the door and nest for a while without visitors xx
My Mum was a nightmare with my first, we were the same, we even took 24 hours at home just us three to help us bond and find or feet. My Mum told everyone we pushed her out. But do you know what, those first few days were so special for me. I am so happy we did it. It was just an amazing, happy and peaceful time and I regret nothing. So stick to your plan. Good luck xx
@Jo thank you, just the reassurance I needed 🩷
@Natalie no she has 3 daughters! We’re just giving her the first grandchild. Don’t get me wrong, we appreciate that she’s so excited. But it’s all come about the wrong way and I wish we never said anything now! I just want to enjoy my maternity leave and not have these silly worries 😅x
Yeahh I definitely understand where you're coming from, you've just got to stick to your guns! Just put it down to her being excited, she'll calm down hopefully 🤞x
I will have my mum and boyfriend as my birthing partners... the only visitor I will allow is my daughter who will come with my mum once he is here.
for my first we said no visitors in hospital or the first two weeks, I then needed my mum when I was in hospital so she came, but other than that everyone else had to wait two weeks, it doesn’t matter how upset she is this time isn’t about her it’s about you and your new family, we loved having the time just the three of us to get used to things, this time around again i’ve said no one for two weeks but my mum will bring my 2 year old to the hospital to meet her sister and in laws and rest of my family will have to wait as it’ll be a big adjustment for my daughter
Just don’t tell her when baby’s been born wait until your home - mine asked if she could come I said nope - I want to settle at home for a few days first ! She got upset she’ll get over it !!