Mum/grandma

I'm in the same situation !! I started off letting her do what she wants but realised how rubbish it was making me feel! Try to be strong and do only what you want to do I feel that our mums are trying to see what they can get away with, so we need to set our boundaries so that they learn to take a step back ❤️ You can message me any time if you need to talk more about this xxx

I’m in the exact same situation I thought it would be my MIL but no, as soon as my baby cry’s my mum tells me she’s got colic, she’s got wind ect no she just wants her mum

@Millie my daughter was crying with teething pain yesterday, my mum said that I'm not stimulating her enough 😭😅

@Georgia my little girl is only just 8 weeks I’m dead set sure she’s starting to teeth early, she has all the signs the symptoms asked my mum to have a look and see what she thought and she told me I’m stupid there’s no way :/ she sure knows how to make me feel like the worst mum going always here if you’d like to message and have a rant! X

@Millie awh that's so frustrating!! Apparently babies can even be born with teeth so there really is no age limit! Can I ask if your mum is quite a controlling person? Sorry if too personal. My mum is and I think she sees me having a daughter as her way of getting some control back, like it's her natural response 😅 although she didn't come to help in the first month when I needed it the most ! Yess I will wave so we're connected xx

@Georgia no my mum is the complete opposite she’s a little bit of a control freak over herself but nothing drastic. I think it’s more I’m the youngest of 3, my brother the only boy and eldest then my sister the middle who very much needs a lot of support from my mum whereas I am extremely independent and mature compared so no idea why… but I can go days and days without talking to her

@Millie ah yes that makes sense !! Maybe one day we will be grandparents and then we will undertand our mums way of.thinking 😅🤣

@Millie my mil isn’t in the picture so baby only has my mum and my partners nan as grandmas but his nans dead understanding and jets us do what we think is right while my mum judges and complains about everything I do x

@Georgia my little boy was crying because he just woke up with teething pains and while I was trying to comfort him my mum snatched him away claiming he wanted his grandma 🤦🏻‍♀️xx

It’s hard because it’s your mum you feel like you can’t bite back it’s hard work and definitely mentally draining

Ahh that must've felt horrible 🥺 if she tries to do this again you could turn your back to her as she tries to take him and tell her you're going to another room for some.quiet time, I would feel a lot if anger if my mum did that xx

@Millie I try to bite back at times but she just flips it all around to make herself out to be the victim, last time I told her if she doesn’t start listening and respecting the way we want to raise him and understand boundaries that we’ve set (only thing we’ve said is not to kiss him because of all illnesses going round) then she simply won’t be seeing him for a while and she accused me of threatening her with the baby and kicked off with me x

@Georgia it was horrible, he just woke up and wanted a mummy cuddle but soon calmed down since she was walking around holding him but it just left me feeling useless, I wouldn’t mind but he barely likes her at best of times, she’s too loud and in your face and he much rather prefers his grandad who actually listens to what we say x

Aw I really do understand, maybe your mum feels that he doesn't like her much so is desperate to form that bond ! I never realised how hard it would be to keep everyone happy after having a baby, it should be about us and our babies, not the rest of the family !

Not my mum but my mother in law, which i find harder because i don’t feel the place to say anything to her. She’s never been fond of me but my pregnancy she seemed to be super supportive and nice always saying all this positive stuff about how she was gonna be when he’s born. But now he’s actually here it’s like she hates me again. And if I go up (rarely do because I just get pure anxiety) i just get my baby taken from me and she does things wrong and just because they’ve had babies they always say they know what they’re doing but it’s my baby not there’s. Plus he was an emergency c-section baby and I went through living hell to get him here safely so i absolutely hate him not being with me. So you’re absolutely not alone🫶🏻🫶🏻

Thank god neither my mum nor my MIL are like this, they're both super helpful tbh! I don't really have boundaries/rules, I'm very laid back when it comes to my baby (my 3rd, partners 1st).