Struggling emotionally 😞

I’m not sure what I’m looking to gain from this post, maybe just a bit of support. The past few weeks I’ve felt my mental health getting worse and it’s starting to concern me. I’m struggling to sleep and will wake up randomly in the night with terrible thoughts and worries and can’t get back to sleep. I feel so guilty because the joy I’ve been feeling about having our baby just isn’t there at the moment and I feel like the worst person in the world, and that our baby is going to have a terrible Mum. On top of that, I’ve started a new job before knowing I was pregnant and won’t be eligible for statutory maternity pay so I’m constantly worried about how we’re going to manage financially, all while feeling like I’m not well enough to actually do my job. All in all, just finding everything quite tough right now and blaming myself a lot. 😔 Any advice or support would be welcomed

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So sorry to hear you are feeling like this! I've been feeling so ill (15.5 weeks today) that I feel very negative about my pregnancy and although I know it's what we want, in finding it so hard to convince myself of that at the moment. I've just been signed off work for 2 weeks so I'm hoping by the time I go back I can feel a bit more positive and more symptoms will have gone. I'm not sure if this is helpful but you're definitely not in it alone being the only person who feels like this. It's really really tough got lots of different reasons but blaming yourself doesn't help - I'm sure you're going to be a great mum! Can you take any time off with sick until you feel better?

Thanks Sally, and sorry you’ve been feeling so unwell. Appreciate the suggestion but I’m worried about taking any time off because I’ve not long worked there and haven’t told them I’m pregnant yet, and also with financial worries about when the baby comes I’m wanting to save up as much as I can before April. Just feel quite stuck 😔

Hey hun, sending you hugs. It's not an easy process with all of this you have going on and then on top of it you are making another human being. In this moment you want to have a piece of mind and enjoy the process but you may feel life is just not on your side right now. There are things you can seek like grants and job seekers allowance. If you speak to citizen advice they can signpost you to the right things to apply for in preparation for your newborn. There's also lots of free mother and baby classes you can attend. It's just about looking around your local area to see what's available. I appreciate this is isn't easy for you but taking one step at a time and tackle on thing at a time helps. I work in the mental health industry so if you ever need a 1on1 chat let me know. Happy to support where I can. I also support with customised mental health worksheets to support mums during their pregnancy. Let me know if you're interested xx

Have a look at maternity allowance as even if not eligible for smp you should be able to get that x

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