So worried about my mental state

Have a very active toddler 20 months, currently pregnant with my second. Nearly 30 weeks. I am 37 years old, have partner but he works a lot, and I hardly get any help...I don't have any relatives to help me or give a break...I feel so exhausted physicaly and yet more worried about my mental state. I did not sleep recently for 3 nights, and in the morning when I wish I could catch up some sleep my toddler will wake up. I feel like I am so close to my limit and I am so worried to break down...this is so scary...I am already panicking how I am gonna manage with a newborn ?? Another thing, my 20 months old still on my bubs for so often despite my milk dried off...she does not eat good and that's why wakes up often at night and is hard to put her back for sleeping since my milk is finished and she can suck my bubs for an hour and I can't sleep....I am really so worried for my brain, I feel a big negative impact on it , and i just afraid to lose my mind....doctors can't really do nothing, I just need a break and rest, extra hands but I can't get it

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Could your partner arrange help/ drop offs to a daycare a couple of days a week to give you a break. Or arrange a nanny to come in one day a week or something to give you a break x

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I am 37 years old myself, 30 weeks pregnant, and my toddler is 22 months old now. Once I stopped breastfeeding him at 12 months, we switched to whole milk 3 times a day and added solids. Now, it is only fully solids and just takes a bottle of milk before bed. Doing the above and having a routine has helped me a lot. Also, my partner helps after he gets back from work to feed and prep him for bed. Like Hollie said, is it possible for your partner to drop your baby off at day care so you can catch some sleep during the day? That could really make a lot of difference. I hope things change for you, as this can really be draining if you have to do it alone without support.

My little ones are 21 months apart I stopped breastfeeding cold turkey 18 months, got pregnant a month after she turned 1. It was becoming too much and it was like a 360 she started sleeping in her crib and not waking up it really shocked me. It is Def a lot not gonna lie and having someone there is really a big help I don't really have much help myself but I just try to stick to a routine for cleaning and taking care of them but someday it doesn't go as planned.

Oh you need to wean that toddler. If you don't do it now you'll be tandem feeding both. I mean, if you WANT to tandem feed, no worries, but I get the sense you don't want to? As long as hubby doesn't work nights, get him doing night duty for your toddler. My kiddo started sleeping through when we night weaned! You need sleep. You can't survive without sleep.

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