Help.

I know exactly how you feel my daughter will be 3 next month and me and her are both always together we have separation anxiety from each other I can’t even go to the toilet without her having to be next to me touching me or just being able too see me!! I am struggling with this too, I’m dreading when she has to start nursery!😩😩 xxx I genuinely have NO LIFE!!!

my baby is my life 💚

You've got to try again, I'm afraid. You can start with babysitters if school feels too big right now, but it's not just unfair to you. Imagine being your child's whole life at 10, or 15. Start by having someone over when you're around and running out to get milk or just taking a shower and being unavailable. He needs to see you model how to have a life for yourself. Make a plan and start small. You can do this. It will be good for both of you.❤️ As part of the plan, consider talking to a therapist about your fear of something happening to your child. It sounds like it has an outsized hold over your life and his at the moment. 🙁

incorporate baby into your self care!

I agree with Bonny. But I too know exactly what you are talking about. With my 1st, & living in a country that was not safe in any way, the 1st day she went to school, she waved bye bye & that was it. I was heart broken. The next day & all the days after that she cried every time she went 2 school. Then covid hit & no more school. We moved to another country (thankfully 1 a lot safer - even tho nowhere is actually "safe"). & we started taking my 1st to school again, same thing, every day for a year, she cried, I cried in secret (so to not make it worse) & we were both heart broken. However every afternoon I'd fetch her & she would tell me, in her own way, how she had lots of fun. Next morning still crying & fighting 2 not go back. Now that my youngest has started at the same school, most days in the beginning, it was hard,but now he walks in happily then cries but usually everyday I find him happy to go to school. But with my 1st it's every morning she cries, & every afternoon she is happy...breaks my ❤️

It breaks our hearts seeing our little ones growing up and learning how to "do life without us".... but trust me when you learn to let go, you are going to see good changes in yourself and your little one. Watching your little person grow is one of the most amazing and special things we moms get to see, up close and personal. Guiding them along the way, kissing those boo boo's and telling them to go get back in that bike and have fun! (Obviously if, like you said there has been an incident and you don't trust the people your child will be with for the day - then I highly suggest finding a new school with people you are comfortable with.)

@Em exactly!!! He literally lives up my ass lol 😭

@Bonny there has been times I have tried to leave him with someone and things have happened unfortunately which made my anxiety towards it worse .. so I just be torn

I'm sorry but im exhausted reading this, and I don't think it's healthy at all if I'm being honest. The last thing you want is to create attachment issues with your child, as one day they won't be a child and they will need to find their own way in the world!

ashley you’re doing a great job, its natural mom instinct to want your baby to be safe! nothing wrong with it.

I can relate with a 4 year old. I’ve been with him every day since birth. I am having a hard time and the thought if enrolling him in school makes me feels sad. I have considered homeschool but I could also use a break as a full time mom and income is needed since this is a one parent home. I don’t want to hinder him. It’s just mentally tough to just do something as someone with anxiety. It is something I am trying to work through and getting back into therapy so that I can tend to my own needs and find balance. My inbox is open to chat parenting and homeschool if you’re open to it.

@MamaBear I had him enrolled in school for the first week and it was hard and even had a sit down with the principle and he wasn’t ready and it’s okay. Homeschool for the first year with me is preparing him for next year when he goes back. I’m financially stable and have the time and it’s more time with him so I don’t mind at all. And I find it funny that someone else can say how I’m deciding to protect and raise my son is not “healthy” meanwhile they have multiple kids and are single parent and struggling. I don’t have those problems so you should look at what really defines healthy.

@Ashley is this response for me? Maybe I am reading it the wrong way. I was agreeing with how tough it is. No one should be downing you for how you decide to parent. When we receive support it is definitely appreciated ❤️

@MamaBear oh no not you sorry. The first half was meant for you. I should of tagged the other person

it is very healthy what you are doing 💚💙

@Dana thank you. I always try my best