Partner discussion?
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If your daughter is only 14 months old, then I presume you haven’t been together for longer than 2 years. To bring this up this early can be pretty daunting and scary to think and talk about. I would find out first how committed he is to the relationship and whether he wants to build a family with you. If he plans to stick around then you just have to talk about it openly and hopefully you can start soon. But if he is still not sure I would not push the subject as you probably don’t want your second child to be without a father also (sorry it’s a little harsh, but you do need to think about long term too) you both still considered young, at 22 (not sure that’s you or him) most still def want to have a little fun and enjoy life for a while longer. When one of you turned 30, it still won’t be too late. Your daughter will have friends from nursery/school soon so just give her everything you got now while you can. Being a single child is not a bad thing at all. I would not rush anything
@Nattinan why would you assume they’ve only been together for two years? People don’t just start dating once a baby is on the way
@Kendahl she said “it would be his first kid but her second” means that she was with someone else and got pregnant and they broke up, or it was an unplanned pregnancy. Now she either met him at the very beginning of the pregnancy or after she has just given birth, 9 months + 14 months = 21 months, it’s actually just a little under two years - unless she has cheated on her current partner, that would be how she could’ve gotten pregnant with a different man. I READ. Did you?
@Nattinan my daughter has a father that’s not it whatsoever. My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years but we had broken up for a year( a lot happened previously) I’m not rushing but I do want the option of discussion available. We’ve had a few scares and I want to be prepared 100% for when and if it actually does
Have it as a casual discussion of " expanding the family" . discuss if either of you are comfortable with another kid soon, or whether you'd rather wait a bit
Well, you can't force someone to have a child. But if you feel like he wouldn't be open to the idea, you should consider why that is. And I know everyone is different, but desiring a sibling for my kid would come a distant second/third to some kind of commitment to me, a guarantee for the whole family, and finances in order. However, if you've considered this, just talk to him. You guys are still relatively young... My brother and I are 5 years apart and we're really close...