postpartum sex

say “look i need you to understand im not ready, i won’t be having sex or doing anything sexual with you until im ready and you need to respect that” i said that to my partner and he respected it. i’m sorry your feeling this way mama, don’t ever let him pressure you into anything. im 3 months pp and i haven’t had sex yet

Omg..i feel like your partner should not tell u that u should be happy he is still attracted to you; its feels wrong.. was there a possibility to feel otherwise after you carried his child? Also cheating is an option if you dont give him sex? Im confused,

‘You should b happy I’m still attracted to you’ - the dumbest man ever. No offence but that’s such a stupid thing for him to say. He should be lucky you still speak to him!

If it helps, I was very open with my husband about the reasons for not feeling ready at the time, I.e. I had sore breasts from breastfeeding, I still had swelling, I was super tired, haemorrhoids etc. I'm grateful we have that kind of relationship as it made it clear to him that it was temporary which eased his concerns and also got him off my back. It's really not great that you're feeling pressured or that you're worried he may cheat if you don't have sex with him. Definitely wait until you're ready and let him know his pressure is only making things worse xx

thanks ladies

Not going to lie he sounds like a tool , he should be respecting your decision and not making crappy comments like that . I would tell him straight that he’s a turn off and if he had any respect he would back off . Don’t let him pressure you . And if he goes elsewhere then he’s not a real man x

Sounds like a shit boyfriend

before baby we had great sex but now i just don’t feel like it, not thinking about it and im tired. then im trying to embrace’s my postpartum body. idk how guys are so horny all the time.

You should never feel pressured into it, and he should respect what your body has just been through, and the recovery is different not just physically but mentally for everyone. If he were to cheat on you because of this not only is this wrong, planned and disgusting but it wouldn't be because of this situation as he should have self control and if he were that type of person now he was always and it would be another situation to blame down the line. It's not your fault he is selfish and he needs to be told bluntly and clearly the small details of what you have been through and going through so he understands and if he still treats you this way or makes you think he will try use this to cheat, he isn't worth being with.

I'm at 14 weeks post partum. My husband and I still have not have intercourse. He understands that if im not ovulating I won't be horny. I understand he has needs so I have given him oral sex twice since baby has been here. I guess it's also important that he's not overly in the mood either because our business is always on his mind working on building it. I did tell my husband that when we do have sex again we will need A LOT of lube unless I'm horny. He also gets that because I'm exclusively breastfeeding and the primary care giver to our daughter while he's gone working all day so it's not on either of our minds a whole lot. Talk to him. Come up with a compromise. I get you're not feeling it so offer or just do something else. Both times I grabbed him when he's most horny which is first thing in the morning I looked down and noticed it and tended to it for him. Good luck!

@Amanda see i did that and now it’s like he’s always expecting it or if i ask him to do something for me he’ll say “are you gonna give me head later?” like .. i just want to do sexual things when im ready i feel he should understand and just wait

that’s bs “you should be happy he’s still attracted to you” ??? it’s not excusable just because he’s a man, it’s disrespectful. i’m sorry he’s not taking you seriously, you don’t deserve that

Yes, I agree he should understand. Did he say he would go find sex elsewhere, or are you attracting that he might cheat if you dont put out?

It is not your job to fulfill his ‘needs’! A partner isn’t there to give you pleasure whenever you want it. I’m sorry he’s pressuring you 💜 x