How do you stay calm when ur baby is crying and being fussy? My brain literally stops when I hear her crying

We are all in the same boat there it's a case of just having to try things until you figure out what she needs maybe keeping a list of when they last fed and had a nappy change and what it was were or soiled and sleep also add how long for to help work out what it could be.

Stresses me out no end to be honest! I really hate the crying, I just feel my blood pressure rising and I get so hot and bothered 😫🙈 I feel like it's a bit better now he's a bit older (6 months) but I still find it hard. I usually text my family to rant about it which I guess helps distract me 😅

I guess it’s normal…. Every parent can face it… last night, I am so shameful of it, but my baby woke up for 5th time in 6h hours. I’m pregnant again, exhausted (not an excuse obviously just explaining) and I told my crying baby in an very angry voice « what do you have what do you need I already breastfed you 30min ago you are clean what on hell is wrong? » … he cried more because I scared him instead of reassure him… feel so bad about it, he must have pain for his teeth and I just shouted at my 6mo only baby … So yeah you are not alone .. I regret it very much I hate myself when I am like that but well we’re human :/

The red face and real tears really break my heart 🥹 and I feel so bad that my LO is so wound up to be like that. I think I just tell myself she must be so frustrated to get that upset it keeps me calm to comfort her

I walk around with one earbud to help the crying not sound so intense. And I play music that keeps me happy. Not that my baby doesn't keep me happy but in those crying moments, it's tough! And yes, keeping a list (or using app) to track when they ate and had diaper change helps visually see what baby might need. I also keep a digital clock in our living room, where we spend most of our time to help me mentally keep track of feeding and diaper times if I don't get to track in on the app. But don't be too hard on yourself momma, it's tough for sure!

Breath in and out for 10 counts also helps me

I have tried noise cancelling headphones because it got so bad at one point I couldn't continue even in the middle of a nappy change. Although I don't find it that helpful as you can still hear them crying but it cuts maybe ten percent off if you need to do something for them and can't think. There are also ear plugs that reduces a small amount of the high pitched sounds. Of course you can still hear most of it but it just lessens it slightly to help you function sometimes. When it got really bad I used a dummy but I hate them so I don't use them unless I feel like I really can't cope and I have to do it for safety or something.