I need help improving myself before I lose my relationship.
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@Nika Thank you for this reply! I've been trying to find therapy but either they're all booked out or don't accept my insurance and cost to much out of pocket. I do definitely need to find the cause to cut this issue at the core. 🥲
Honestly, your going to need a super good therapist. Maybe look into EMDR to deal with childhood trauma. I did it and it helped my relationships so much. I noticed I didn’t react the same way that I did before because little things didn’t set me off. But start reading/listening to self help books related to your issues or triggers. meditate and work on breathing exercises. Try yoga or go on a walk everyday after work. some type of physical activity. You need to find things that help center or ground you. Also if you have all these in place before you start therapy- the therapist actually has to work on your issues rather that telling you do all these things 😂😂
Hey I understand this as I been there myself years ago....it def sounds like you have a bottled up anger/ emotional triggers and kudos to you for being aware and picking up on thar there might be a pattern or something deeper going on here for yourself... I have learned to shift this for myself as well as I was a angry person always picking fights many years ago until I went about addressing it a few different ways....I'm now Certified In reiki and learned more about emotional pains that stay in the body and have worked with myself and those with emotional anger/ pains and stress learned some tips and techniques over the years that I feel gets quicker shifts than just talking it out alone. If you ever want me to explain what else you can try let me know it's just too much to write it all out here in text. Can do a phone call or zoom thing if ever interested. Have a nice day
Eeekk I think that’s narcissistic but I’m not sure we’ll have to look it up but anyway we are who we are you’ll find someone who was just right for you. My husband and I are T totally different but we’ve made it 10 years now.
I’m like this at times and I could write a book on the reasons. BP1, ADHD, being a DV victim so hyper vigilant, over stimulation, mood disorder… I’m in therapy is my only answer. You have to figure out your why’s and coping mechanisms to break the cycle of being an instigator and antagonistic in your relationship. At least you have self awareness and honestly that’s the first and hardest step. I can’t really give much more advice as it’s still a work in progress for me. But you’re not alone!