Paternal PPD
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I feel like this post is one I could have written myself. My husband has hardly been interacting with baby and finds anything he can do to not be home and to be by himself. If he is home he lays on the couch or in bed. I didn’t think about it being paternal PPD until reading your post…. I feel bad because I blew up on him the other day because I’ve been so extremely overwhelmed and he’s been complaining about being tired but he doesn’t do anything that would make him tired. I don’t have any advice just there with you.
@Jasmine it’s so hard for me not to be mad that I’m doing everything on my own. I need him to help but I also know when you’re depressed just getting out of bed is a challenge on its own. I want to be his safe space and encourage him, but some days it’s really hard because I’m struggling with my own bitterness towards him and his few interactions with baby. He adores her though. When he’s with her he lights up. But it’s like he has to force himself to interact with her or to even wash the bottles. He’s completely against seeing a doctor (long story but had bad experiences growing up). So I’m just doing the best I can. I’m so sorry you’re going through the same thing. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, as @Alli said. It’s so hard and hard on the marriage too.
Not with this baby but with our last in 2023. Please, share your feelings and encourage him to speak to his doctor. My husband spiraled and ended up inpatient at 8 weeks pp. I would never wish that on anybody.