Completely insane partners mum..

Need to get this out and off my chest to all you lovely ladies. My partners mum is a complete narcissist. So we haven’t seen/spoken since October 2023 at my boyfriends birthday as this was the last straw of her being awful to me and she was called out in front of people for the way she treated me. This was then followed by telling my boyfriend if he doesn’t break up with me she’s taking him out of her will. (Did this on his actual 30th birthday) Now that we’re having a baby she pops up in a message telling me ‘that baby is my grandchild’ and that I’ve blamed her for so much. I was fuming.. how dare she just message me after all this time dictating who my unborn baby is. She is insane as said she’s tried her best. How can she think she’s tried when I’ve not heard a word from her over the past year. No responsibility, no apology for all the hurt she caused every time I’d see her prior last October. I also have as very narcissistic dad who I haven’t seen in years which was the best decision to protect my own mental health. She is bringing up all that trauma for me as she’s just like him. I got rid of that negativity in my life so I don’t need her bringing it all back. I worry when our baby arrives even though my partner says his mum won’t have any control but I know he’ll want her to see our baby. I don’t know what to think. I just want to be happy and super excited, not worrying what will happen :( the anxiety she gives me is awful. When I saw her name pop up on my phone my heart instantly started racing.

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Your partner needs to step up and be a man and say to his mother that she needs to show the mother of the baby respect and be decent to her in order to see her grandchild

@Pia completely agree. No respect for me then no respect for our baby. I know she’ll never change. Gave her so many chances before. At the same time I understand it’s hard for my partner as he also knows she’ll never change as told me she’s always been like this

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I would cut all contact with her and tell her why she will not be having any sort of a relationship with your child or you. I would not have that type of person around my child or me. Your partner needs to be on board with this as it will be easier to stop contact with your child if she can't manipulate him. It is a parents job to keep their child away from people like this. You would never forgive yourself if your child had the same anxiety from their grandparent as you had from your parent. If you cut contact now then you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy

@Kimberley thank you. It’s just so upsetting and yet again I slept so badly last night from it going over and over in my mind. I replied with a long message asking her to explain how she’s tried, told her the reasons why I don’t wish to speak to her as she’s taken no responsibility and has no respect for me. She just replied calling me bitter. Didn’t acknowledge anything I said. My partner then spoke to her and said about apologising and again she denied doing anything wrong. She then sent a message saying sorry. But I know it’s not genuine as he asked her to say it. Why not apologise a year ago without someone telling you to do so. I don’t want anything to do with her or our baby. I know my partner still wants his mum to see our baby as he says ‘we’ll have to see’ when I asked him this morning. Like you said I don’t want my daughter to ever suffer from anxiety. Want to protect her from all of that x

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