Deflated and Crying

I've been there, the first 3 months I found it quite tough. Even though I had family around me, it still wasn't enough. You're on your own for most of the day and you're doing everything around the clock. I'm almost 6 months and I still struggle from boredom/ loneliness but I try to keep busy. (Even before pregnancy, I didn't like being in my own company anyway). Is there anyone you could invite over to look after or just chat too? Or could you try going for walks? How is your baby in general. I'm sure you're doing a great job xx

@Haylee my friend comes round sometimes around once a week. I think it's more so from my partner if I'm honest. I'm exb so there's not a lot he can do for lg apart from change her or wind her. I wish he'd do other things around the house to take the load off me. He will not do anything until I ask and it's always can I finish playing this first etc. I'm currently awaiting an appt as I don't think my faloola has been stitched correctly so we're not intimate sex wise either. My love language is acts of service and I'm definitely not getting that. Im alone all day and I go to bed alone too. I just feel on my own if I'm honest. Baby's doing great, she's my little bestie ❤️

Hey love, it sounds like something might be triggering these feelings. You mentioned not feeling appreciated—if that’s from your partner, for example, it can easily build up into a lot of tough emotions. Without even realizing, you might start bottling up feelings like resentment, hurt, anger, and frustration. It’s really difficult when all you’re doing and going through seems unnoticed by those closest to you. That can make you feel alone, affecting your mental and emotional well-being. And while hormones may be intensifying your feelings, this is just a gentle reminder to also look at any underlying triggers. That way, we’re not just chalking it up to “hormones” and missing what might really be bothering us. I’m here anytime you need to talk, or just have some support ❤️

Have you talked to your husband about how you’re feeling and what you need from him?

@Norma Cindy C. I've tried, if I say I'm tired/exhausted he says he is too and Just cause he goes to work doesn't mean he's not allowed to be tired too. I've explained it's a different kind of tired and that he gets to go out and have adult conversations but it falls on deaf ears 🙄

@Anisha ♡ thank you, yeah I suppose I am triggered to be honest 😂 I try to be so glass half full as well and I get a glass half empty back 🥱it's a tough one

I feel like that sometimes too but I look at her and make me feel better and powerful. In my case I don't have family around so I feel more lonely. You can text me if you want you are not alone and just to chat you might feel better. I send you a lot of light and strength.

Have you considered going to any local baby groups? You can meet other parents who can relate and also have some adult conversations.

Yes, I struggled after my last two children so normal. Maybe you can look up a local play group and get out of the house for an hour.

Im 7 months ppl and still feel super emotional some days 🥲 it’s ok to feel like this, please don’t try to push those feelings away ❤️

Your not alone. What helped me was actually going to the doctor and getting linked up with my therapist. They also gave out meds but I refused them after a couple of months

You’re definitely not alone ! I took antidepressants after birth, my emotions were everywhere! It really helped me get back to my normal self and now at 8 month PP I don’t take them anymore. It’s worth thinking about at least. You got this mama!!! We are warriors!!

You mentioned he says he wants to finish playing his games before he helps, maybe that’s a meaningful topic to discuss with him? I ended up leaving my ex husband bc he cared more about his games than being a good partner to me, so in some cases that can become a serious issue to address

@Bethan I've been once with a friend and to some sensory classes as well. They're just a bit expensive to go all the time.

@Q yeah they offered me them but I'm against meds for this x

@Brandy yeah it's shit if I'm honest with you. If I ask for help he will but it's "can I just finish this first" etc

Some of our local churches put on free classes and It’s not just people who attend church that go. Not sure if that’s an option where you live?