Advice

Maybe some calm down box with sensory items to help her regulate her feelings. Sometime visual timetable help so she know what plan is for the day

@Samantha thank you tried that at school and she threw it out the window

Hey there, no judgment at all! You’re doing great by being there for your daughter and trying to find ways to help her. A few things that might be worth trying are helping her create a ‘calm-down’ kit with things she finds soothing, like a favorite toy, stress ball, or sensory item. Some parents find that visual supports—like emotion charts or a ‘feelings thermometer’—can help kids identify and express what they’re feeling before it escalates. Also, simple breathing exercises, like ‘smell the flower, blow out the candle,’ can be a good go-to when she’s feeling overwhelmed. You’re clearly doing everything you can to support her, and that’s huge!

This is going to probably sound terrible but if my son is past the point of no return I have to put him in a box lol. He needs a dark space to just recollect himself, he emerges reborn! . if your talking about how to manage the emotions in the first place then I'm in the same boat! He reacts so quickly to strong emotions.

No judgement but talking about emotions when calm can help explaining what they are how they may feel look sound, normalising them, there are some great free online resources on Twinkl or you can google for ideas to create your own. Building a bank of ideas for what to do when she feels things can be good too like an angry face then pics of thjngs to do ie stamp on a spot, scream in a pillow, smack the bed, jump up and down, write draw, kick a ball talk to an adult hit or throw a Teddy introduce them slowly start with the one she displays most and then build them up. Ask the school if they have an ELSA and if they do request sessions (emotional literacy support assistant) if not can they suggest other ways to support you and her.