Show your support
I didn't have a good postpartum with my first & second, but I did with my 3rd and it was all due to support. Gather whatever support you can! Partner, parents, in-laws, friends, extended family. The more time you dedicate to rest, recovery, & bonding the first 6 weeks, the better you will most likely cope. As the new mama YOU need the care & help. Help is people oming over to do tasks around the house (cooking, laundry, cleaning), not just coming to hold baby. You don't have to hand baby over unless you're okay with it. Or you want/need to shower or sleep. Freeze meals or ask for a meal train. I highly recommend the book "The Science of Parenting" by Margot Sutherland. And if you plan on breastfeeding "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding" by La Leche League. I set up both a space next to my bed with chargers, high protein snacks, a water bottle, diapers, wipes. Once I was ready to move about the house I set up another space in the living room.
Im doing good, 9 weeks pp and baby girl is happy and healthy! But The first few weeks were rough and when I realized I was slipping mentally I asked for help, Don’t be afraid to ask for help! And don’t feel bad if you do! You’re only one person and baby needs a lot, and you have to be at your best to give them everything they need and you can’t do that if you’re struggling. Also don’t forget that it won’t last forever. After the first month everything smoothed out for me, it’s not always great but it’s loads better then the first few weeks. not everyone is the same it may take longer for you to get used to things, don’t be hard on yourself and just keep going and trying your best. Your baby will love and appreciate everything you do for them either way 😊
I'm not doing to well. 😅 I'm three weeks three days PP and I started working out at two weeks just to improve my mental state. I have mastitis in my left boob and an internal hemorrhoid that makes it an impossible, painful, and bloody situation to poop 😅🥲 my partner isn't being loyal (not physically cheating just things that lead up to it) and now were not talking or even seeing each other. It's only been three days of fighting but it feels like we've broken up and he hasn't seen our baby at all. We sleep in the same house I'm not stopping him btw 😅 he just hasn't asked I guess he's avoiding us both. I'm so depressed and I hate my body so much. I'm not eating enough and I think it's making my milk supply drop so that's just making me feel like a failure and has me stressing how I'll afford formula if something doesn't change. 🥲
It gets better. At least emotionally. A lot of talk with your partner if you have one or with whoever is helping you. Stay strong take care of yourself the best you can (not always easy with a baby) go out as much as possible even if you don't feel/want to this helps a lot. Don't worry everything you are feeling is normal.
Take care of yourself too, not just the baby.
@Bree thank you for this🫶🏽💕 needed this
@Dana Lew thank you, I agree support really helps. All of my family and friends stay in another state which is makes harder sometimes. But my husband and his parents are a big help.
Stay strong mentally and physically , its Alot! But dont give up or think about giving up