in Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Poorly baby

I don’t no if it’s just me or other mums feel like this. My LO has recently had sepsis around 4 weeks ago was really poorly in hospital and he has now been back in hospital for a few days because he has RSV. When he was born he was born with a bad chest and is constantly on antibiotics for a chest infection and this is “the norm for us” I feel like it affects me more mentally than it does physically and I’m always worried about what the next health professional is going to say. I have a very supportive husband but I do feel lonely when everything happens and huge mum guilt becuase he’s poorly when there is physically nothing I can do. I have a lot of home things to help with his breathing ect and these are episodes which are unfortunately out of my control but I can’t help but think it’s my fault. (If that make sense) Seeing my LO so poorly is horrible. My anxiety and depression is horrible and feeling as if it’s a never ending battle for us! Has anyone else felt like this?

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Aww your wee boy is a wee fighter It's hard seeing them unwell 🫂 I hope he has a speedy recovery

I took my daughter coming out Coombs positive and needing 2 transfusions really hard. In my mind it was my fault cause it's my blood attacking her blood how can I not process that as my fault. Maybe if I had pushed her out quicker it could of been avoided, and all the thoughts of how I could of prevented it and all the mom guilt in the world especially the first days where they was trying stuff to fix it without the transfusions and it just wasn't working. Mom guilt is normal just don't let it devour you. You can only prevent so much I can imagine it's so much worse cause on going complications. But you sound like your doing everything you can to keep your baby boy healthy, sometimes it's just not enough and thing happen out of our control. You got this, I always say allow yourself to feel what you feel if it helps you process and hopefully get out of the depression slump faster.

Yes, can relate a lot. My boy has various conditions and is pretty much always poorly, just to varying degrees. It's the norm for us too. It takes it's toll! Some days the mum guilt feels heavy even though it's not my fault.

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