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He is 9 weeks I love him to peace and feel guilty how I feel cause everyone says you should be happy it’s the best thing that happens
Oh you’re doing so well mama, being a mum is such hard work and I really feel there’s an expectation for it to feel natural and to always be positive because people say we ‘should be happy’. Yesterday my LO just wouldn’t sleep and every time I put her down she’d cry and I just felt a build up of irritation so I let her cry in her crib and I took 5 mins away from her and cried! It’s not that we’re not happy about having our new babies, it’s just so taxing on our wellbeing - change in hormones, lack of sleep, not being able to have as much self care time or a quick shower/bath or even eat or drink water properly! Sometimes there’s even an added layer of bs where you may have struggled with your mental health beforehand. But what I’ll say is this - you got this, and we’re all here to support you. It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to struggle, it’s okay to feel how you feel. You’ve done such a brave and amazing thing opening up about it. You can reach out to myself if you would like to chat xx
Thank you I have just pm you x
I have such vivid memories of holding my first baby in the kitchen, staring out the window, swaying and sobbing. I ended up starting SSRIs after that - is it worth talking to your GP? You can love your baby desperately and still find it challenging sometimes. Also, you'll relate differently to different periods of their lives. The newborn era isn't my favourite; I'm just personally not as good at it. This is just a rough patch for you. Things will be different in a month, a year, five years, etc. but it's still worth talking to your GP.
How old is your little one? It's a really tough job and I am sure you are a great mama doing the best you can. It's ok to leave a baby in a safe place for a minute or two while they cry so you can pull yourself together. My mantra is always this too shall pass. Call your GP and have a chat about how you are feeling. Sending positivity x