To leave or not

Okay guys I need your opinion. Me and my partner have a 1 year old and have a another baby arriving in feb since having our first I’ve raised her pretty much on my own, he games and just carry’s on with his life as normal- the amount of times I have brought this up to him and he says but it’s my life… this was a red flag for me as his daughter should come first. I appreciate everyone needs time out but the amount he games is ridiculous. He works all week 7-7 so doesn’t get to see her much unless she wakes up early. He has gone for a work trip for 2.5 weeks, the first 2 days I hardly heard from him and pulled him up on it knowing full well he would’ve had access to his phone and he was open and honest about everything I thought we were good. Last night I FaceTime him with our daughter and he was on the phone for maybe 5 minutes and said hell call back, I called back after an hour and he didn’t answer and then I get a message saying sorry I was showering and now I have gone out with my work colleagues. I messaged him back saying how crappy it was and haven’t heard anything since. I’m getting to the end of my tether with him and want to leave as I’m fed up. Anyone else had this

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I sure have. That’s an immature man too selfish for growth. It sounds like you even have communicated your struggles and he’s not stepping up. My ex, it was obvious he didn’t want a family. He wanted freedom and intimacy and that was about it. Oh and my paychecks. Once I figured it out, I left. Only then did he come back begging and wanting to change. But I had grown while he wasn’t paying attention and learned my worth. You and your daughter are worth a lot more. And some guy is going to come by one day and want to commit his time. We should never settle. We communicate. Give them a chance. Let them decide. Then, the ball is in your court.

This is what works for me, I make sure I am fed up that way I just up and leave and never return.

@Alicia "I had grown while he wasn't paying attention" GIRL 😭👏🏻

Yeah this was me and my ex last year! I gave birth and found myself being a single parent in a relationship! I gave her 6 months to change and help me out with me going on about it over and over and over, month after month after month and then finally I just had it.. waited for her to ask me what was wrong and I told her I’m done, I want to break up once and for all! It’s a shitty place to be when you both went into this journey together but at the end of the day, you have to put yourself and your child/children first! If he is already like this with your current child then he for sure isn’t planning to change when your 2nd comes! I honestly felt so much better alone than in such a relationship and you need to be able to learn how to juggle 100% of the responsibilities alone and them being there to do the odd task here and there really isn’t helping! It gets a lot easier when they’re gone that’s for sure!

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