First time sex after giving birth
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I definitely didn’t enjoy the first time after my son. I gave myself more time. Also if you are breastfeeding use lots of lube because you will likely be drier than usual. This time around I am still just trying different positions for what works good for me now. And then down the track the other will become more comfortable.
it will definitely get better. the first time after birth was like that for me. tight, painful and uncomfortable. it sucked but my partner is super understanding, so we took it slow and after a few tries it got much better. i’d say it took a month to get back to normal completely. give yourself grace and patience and go easy on your body, you will enjoy it again!
13 weeks postpartum and haven't had sex yet because I feel there's something not quite right again, and if there is any sort of pain or discomfort, it's not happening. Give yourself time, birth is a massive event! X
Almost a year postpartum here and just now it’s getting better for me. It felt soo uncomfortable in the first few months. Take as much time as you need to heal and feel good about it again. It will get better
Girl ur body is still healing. Give it time! It Varys for different ppl. I had stitches and did it at week 3. It was uncomfortable. But others wait longer than 6 weeks x
It gets better, definitely mind over matter also I was constantly thinking about it and I think that made me less at ease and made it seem so much worse, then it got better and better just slowly x
I didn't till about 8 weeks after, I did have a c section but to be honest it was still uncomfortable tho it took a long time for it to feel good again and that's okay there's no rush ,focus on healing 💕 vaginal birth you gotta be more careful you dont wanna cause yourself more damage there x
It’s gunna be sore for a little while. It’s normal! You had trauma down there! I’m 3.5 months PP and it hurts every once in a while. Give yourself some time and grace it’ll get better 💛
I also had lots of stitches from tears and an episiotomy. We didn’t have sex till about 3 months PP and it was so uncomfortable and hurt that we had to stop. It didn’t really start to feel back to normal till about 10 months PP. Our bodies have gone through so much trauma giving birth and it takes time to heal. Remember technically a woman’s body doesn’t heal till 2 years after having a baby. Talk to your partner and focus on other ways to be intimate kissing, holding hands, cuddles on the sofa that’s what I found to be much more important in those first months. X
I never enjoyed sex but I certainly don’t now after having a baby. My Toddler will be 2 in February and I never want to sex. It’s too painful and uncomfortable. It’s common after birth. Give your body some grace. Pelvic floor exercises help. Good luck!
Your body needs to heal. It’s telling you it needs more time
Give yourself more time.
Waiting 6 weeks is just a “guide” if that’s the right word. Some women can have painless sex immediately after, and others (many) can take way longer than 6 weeks. It’s not a “oh you’re healed now, go for it” sort of thing. If you’re experiencing pain, you probably need more time and shouldn’t rush into it. Give your body more time to heal. If several more weeks pass and it’s still an issue, then talk to a doctor and look into pelvic floor therapy.