Family Planning question

I’m not against birth control at all. But there are non hormonal ones like the copper iud. But then there are ones that just have progesterone in it. Those are all great. And I’d suggest them. My husband doesn’t like condoms either and my body is too random with the periods to be able to track it properly. Also i’ve gotten pregnant with both babies first month trying so I do not trust my body not to get pregnant immediately

So I think this is part of our free will and should be in light of God, the giver of life. But if we are feeling overwhelmed with a good gift? It's not something we appreciate very much and it's ok to put in some bc. Because bc, all has a fail rate. I trust God to ultimately be in charge of our conception. Personally I have used condoms for 2 years and then one time without it, we conceived. Because I prayed and put it Gods hands and he answered. Then after that child, I tried the copper IUD. I don't recommend it at all! I had discomfort and more hormones on it, it hurt so much on insertion and messed me up. I got it out at almost 2yrs and my period vanished. I got officially Diagnosed with PCOS and had to get a period induced. So while I believe it our right to choose to put a pause on the gift of children, I think most bc is harmful to our hormones. I personally think condoms are the best, along with abstinence.

@GabrielleI forgot about the non hormonal ones I’ll have to look into that

Also I'm irregular in cycle, so the cycle tracking and ovulation stuff doesn't work for women like me. I'm still searching but I don't want to lightly take something that going to upset my hormonal balance. (I'm going to be researching condoms in hopes of finding some that work better. As my husband doesn't enjoy the ones we have found so far.)

DO YOUR RESEARCH! The copper IUD doesn’t prevent the sperm from meeting the egg, it prevents the FERTILIZED egg from implanting. Your spirit enters the egg when fertilized. So the fertilized egg is already a person that basically gets flushed out. I would really consider the condoms cause there’s different kinds and many ways to make using them fun. I would also look into natural family planning with tracking your cycle, ovulation, using ovulation test strips (Amazon has them in packs for cheap) and even a birth control ring that tracks everything and can be more accurate than using a period tracker app

And then there's me who has researched long and hard about the ones that are inserted and realised it's not worth it; got pregnant while still figuring out my very very irregular circle; and now just want to go ahead and do the female sterilisation since partner says he wouldn't do his and condom is not our thing. I have also been very conflicted about the whole thing as my faith doesn't support birth control method and I can't be here popping babies every year when everything is sooo hard and the world is at the point it is now 🤦‍♀️

I don't trust birth control or any other medical alternatives to prevent pregnancy, it does alter hormones inside the body. And I believe male and female sterilization goes against the Most High. Our bodies belong to Him. I would just recommend condoms or have your husband "pull out" before ejaculation. We must surrender our "control" for His Will. Trust Him to provide for you and your family in tough times.

https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/does-the-bible-permit-birth-control quite a thought provoking article and I hope it helps :)

@Abbie this was very helpful thank you ☝️

“Natural Family Planning” is basically using a cycle tracking method, and it’s just as reliable as BC (99% effective) if done properly and diligently. Ovulation tests are so cheap and an easy way to avoid that window too. Bonus: we learn so much about our bodies and our health through our cycles and hormones 👏🏼 NFP works with irregular cycles too, bc it’s a hormone observational approach rather than just charting days