Mother in law basically told me I’m not a real mother

I don't understand how some people can think having a c-section doesn't make someone a mom. My mom had a c, and 4 vaginally, my sister had 2 Cs, and I don't think that me having one vaginally makes me any more of a mother than her. Her labor was tougher (she was in labor for 30+ hours before emergency C), and her recovery was harder and longer than mine. If I were in your shoes, I probably would have responded similarly

I feel like it wasn't harsh enough. Ive only have vaginal births, but when I was 4 month pp my sil was 5, and still not completely healed. I could never honestly.

C sec is harder than vaginal, I couldn't imagine going through the process. And you're still giving birth..... the baby still came out!!!!

Dang your MIL was so far out of line wtf. C-section sounds way worse than vaginal. No matter how you gave birth, you are a mom??? I hate the vaginal vs c section, breastfeeding vs formula crap that moms try to use against each other to tear each other down. Can we not all just appreciate that motherhood is a challenging and individualized journey and support each other through it ?! Sorry for your crappy MIL.

That's bs. You are definitely still the mother of your baby! You brought that life into this world and care for it. Who cares how that happened!!

I did the c section by force - it was soo hard . I just wanted to move on and take care of my baby. I felt like half my body was missing and couldn’t stand , for like 3 weeks . Then it started to heal .

It wasn’t. I would have said I wonder how do u cross the street with that mind of yours.

Not rude enough and I’ve only had vaginal births! 🔥🔥🔥 I would flame her ass

That's one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. I pray I never have a c-section bc I've seen the process & recovery yall are so fucking strong i had a vaginal birth & epidural & was still struggling! Taking care & loving your child makes you a mother! Ik women who pushed out babies & they are shitty moms, pushing out a baby doesn't automatically make you a "real mom" You were too nice in my opinion not harsh at all

She should stfu.

Yh, she really needs to STFU.. can't even imagine what the conversation was for her to say that 🙄

Not harsh enough. I’d of kicked her out my house! If you were there I would have just grabbed everything and left. No way would I put up with that x

Actually, I feel it wasn’t harsh enough. Girl, you are a mom,a brave one at that. Your MIL may be a mom but she isn’t a good mom. I can’t think of any instance where a good mom would talk down on another’s birth process whether it’s via caesarean or vaginal. Please focus on yourself and baby. Stay fine and keep well 🤗😘

When someone I knew said something similar I just casually dropped in that at least I don’t piss myself like she does when I sneeze… Some women think because they “suffered” the “natural way”, they are better than others. The ONLY outcome that matters is baby and mum walk out those hospital doors healthy and alive. We don’t get medals or rankings based on how hard it was, we constantly prove that we as women cannot even support each other.

So does she think women who adopted aren't mothers? I don't understand this mentality...the way you gave birth or even if you gave birth does not determine if you are a mother 🙄