Have you ever been in a social situation and overanalysed everything you said and done afterwards?
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@Cierra absolutely! I was happy with my little achievement & now my mind is in overdrive😔 I handled the situation as best as I could but, now I'm questioning myself. I was honest about the situation but, now I'm worried if I was right to be honest. I quite often feel awkward during the school run anyway {when I'll see the parents again}.
Yes all the time, but usually my brain likes to fuck with me just before I go to sleep, like hello Neena, let’s revisit a situation that happened 10 years ago 🤦🏽♀️😄 Kids parties are the absolute worst! I’ve done 2 now and fuck me they are so stressful! When I go to other children’s parties I’m just thankful to sit the fuck down and doom scroll on my phone in peace for a bit 🤣 Honestly @Sarah🦄 don’t give it another thought. Your brain is wrong. I promise you no parent thought you were rude or made a bad impression. Also happy birthday to your little one 🫶🏽
@Neena thank you x
I'm the same way! I have to force myself to stop thinking about it immediately or else I'll be stuck thinking everybody hates me 😭
@Katelynn I get that! Sending hugs 🤗
I have always been like this i overthink about everything but yesterday would be a good example i came home from doing a weekly shop and 2 of our neighbours were outside my youngest audhd lad said hi to both but because 1 neighbour started talking to me the other neighbour to me didn't look happy and very awkward I spent the whole afternoon wondering what I'd done. Or if it was because the other neighbour spoke to me. I will add they normally speak to me.
You done better than I did at my daughter’s 1st birthday party which was a DISASTER. I hardly spoke to anyone, I didn’t decorate how I wanted, the Buffett was a disaster and unorganised, forgot the speaker so no music was playing for well over 30m/1h 🙄🤣 kids made their own party bags. Spent hundreds of pounds for it pretty much to go to waste/bin. Also lost a birthday card with $ in it and lost a present. Like don’t worry about it you done fine 🤣🤣🤣 (I still over think it and tempted to throw an other party for comp like I CAN THROW A FUN PARTY🤣🤣🤣)
Can definitely relate to this, I over analyse every encounter 🤦🏻♀️
I still do that with situations from 20 years ago 😫
Omg yes yes yes. Everything said by OP and in the comments is what happens to me 🫠
It's called ruminating. It's a symptoms of anxiety and people pleasing and low self esteem. I used to struggle with it so hard. Therapy can help you identify the patterns in the way you think. I found a firm approach to be best. Identify that train of thought and put my foot down when I feel it happening and say in your head "no I am not going down that hole. I love myself, I am safe, and it doesn't matter what those people thought". You have to reprogram the way you think. What really helped me is naming that version of yourself that's self deprecating. And talk to it when that version comes up and literally tell them that they're not welcome here anymore.
@Morgan love that approach!
@Morgan thank you for this, I'll give it a try when I catch myself doing it.
100%. But usually I’ll feel good right after the interaction and then hooouuurs later I’ll think of someone’s facial expression and things, oh no I pissed her off. And then it makes me think that everyone must think I’m not self aware of my rudeness. When in reality, I’m waaaaaay too aware. Social anxiety is crazy😅