Is separation anxiety normal?

My daughter is 18 months old and honestly I still have separation anxiety. I’ve only been away from her for maybe 3 hours at most

I totally understand this. I’m very similar. I do trust my husband to take good care of our two boys but I also worry like crazy when he’s watching them and I’m not around. The comment your husband made would make me extra anxious to leave the kids alone with him lol. I only trust my parents to watch/babysit for us otherwise I don’t trust anyone else to. My oldest is 2 and tbh I still wouldn’t be ok with doing more than a few hours away from him, especially not overnight in a different state. The only time I’ve left him overnight was with my parents because I was in the hospital giving birth to my second lol. That being said I have started working on it. My husbands parents come over once a week and help my husband keep an eye on my boys while I go to the gym with my sister. And my husband and I also have tried working on doing more date nights. Its definitely hard at the beginning but it gets easier

Yes I still get worried about leaving my 3 year old sometimes. Tho it seems ur partner is making the separation anxiety worse 😅

Separation anxiety is completely normal for both you and baby to experience. You were literally inseparable for around 9 months, and then you were taking care of her 24/7 after that so it takes time to get used to leaving baby alone. That being said, even if I didn't experience separation anxiety I would still get anxious leaving baby with someone like your baby's dad as it sounds like he's not a very safe person for them to be left alone with in general. Also if baby is EBF then in no way should she be leaving the state without you.

Yes I have separation anxiety too with my son and he is 2 I thought it would eventually go away but it’s still here unfortunately. I can’t enjoy time on my own away from him because I always feel like I’m rushing to get back to him. I get anxiety over something bad happening when I’m not around like a natural disaster and me and him are separated

Thank you all so much. That makes me feel so much better. I felt like a bad person or like something was wrong with me

I wouldn't ever let my baby away from me for a flight trip. He is 13 months. At 6 months I wasn't even leaving him for 2-3 hours. That's sounds not very reasonable from your partner. Your anxiety is totally normal.

its normal

My sons 11 months and I feel the same 😭 I've decided to work a few hours a week just to help with the separation anxiety even though I had no plans to ever go back 🥲 because I don't want my son having bad separation anxiety because of me if that makes sense? But I think it's definitely normal to feel this way ❤️

It's totally normal. Your partner isn't helping things. Enjoy the baby days, and in 3-4 years, you'll be crazy... I mean, ready. 😉

Can you not go with them when they visit his Dad?

It's completely normal and he should not take an ebf baby without you on a trip

@Rachel i can't because of work. But it's ok, he's not going anymore anyway.

Same on the separation anxiety!! I feel so guilty too when I go for an appointment. My husband does silly things too that scare me - the power drill would terrify me too. Women and men are wired verrry differently. My separation anxiety for my 3 year old peaked when I was in hospital having my second daughter. I cried so hard when she was 1 day old to the extent that they called the perinatal health team out to check on me and it was just because I missed my first baby. ❤️ It gets easier. She's just started at preschool. I have to distract myself with my second daughter because I worry about my first. Xxxx

Also, I've never had a baby sitter except for when my Mum looked after her when I was in hospital with my second. Xx

And then just like that my 3 year old just woke up for water and said "I want you to get out, Daddy get in my bed" ouch!