Is this a normal feeling?

i also want to add that the baby cuddles me so much that i don’t feel like cuddling (or being close) with my husband when we’re together vs before i used to crave his physical touch… same thing with sex but i think that’s mostly because my sex drive hasn’t returned yet

You are being so touched out that it's overwhelming for you. It's your hormones that let you focus solely on baby..I felt.the same way and had tom of resentment. But now I look back.and I am.sp.glad that he was my rock when I needed it. He is involved and loving dad and was more loving husband..I just didn't realize much then

Why are u me 🤣 keep telling myself I love him cos before I had baby I did. It’s rough though. There’s a lot about him now I can’t even tolerate

Completely with you on this

You’re getting all of your feel good hormones (oxytocin, serotonin and dopamine) from your little one and that is why! I have an extremely Velcro toddler who has been like this since day one and I’m still getting my ‘fix’ from her 😂 I have a very understanding husband though but I do feel upset that we arn’t as close because of this right now. It’ll return once my girl has more independence I’m sure. Don’t worry it happens and we do still love them!

I did get irritated more frequently though with the pets and him, your hands are so full with baby there isn’t room for anything else, hence being touched out like someone else said, I’m slowly regaining some love towards our pets and him now she’s 2 I’m seeing them in a happier light and can tolerate them being around more now my lo is showing some love herself towards the pets😊

It's totally normal tbh. It's biology. Mums HAVE to love our babies over all else, so we are motivated to keep them alive. Doesn't mean you don't love your husband. Can you do a date night?

Can I just say that I feel the same. I try not to overthink it too much as I can get upset convincing myself that I’m out of love with my husband. I think it’s just that our mind, body and soul is completely devoted to being a mother and we don’t have much capacity for anything else. I’ve kept goldfish my whole life but since having my baby, I’m not really interested in them. Me and hubby have started doing date night once a fortnight. Once little one is asleep, we order food, have a few drinks and watch something on the TV. We get dressed up and it’s really nice. I get you sis!

Its normal an common but especially if everything is OK otherwise parents should prioritize each other more than the baby sometimes because the baby will benefit very much from their parents being happy and in love, in a strong team.

I felt that way until like six months after I weened my son. I was unattracted to him and even thought he smelled bad. I think the hormones play a huge role in attraction. I feel back to normal now and I think I love him even more than before

thank you everyone this is so encouraging ❤️ i was really starting to feel guilty and wondering if my relationship was ending lmao and we do go on date nights but it’s still just not the same

Yes I felt the same as you. The love I feel for my baby is bigger then my own body and can't fit in it. It's beautiful but soooo overwhelming. Feel like no one and nobody else matters anymore. With time it changes a little (not the live for my LO bit more about how to deal with it). Also I m being diagnosed for pp depression at 13 months pp. I don't know if this was part of it ? Unless you have reasons to fall out of love with your partner (useless dad and partner, not supportive, emotionally unavailable,...) you most certainly love him but you have other priorities just now. (Same for the cat Ahahah. I also fell out of love with my car. But slowly get it back).

@Aurélie THIS 🥰

Geez dont get rid of the cat. Your daughter will love it by the time she is 2. I have 4 cats and my daughter loves them more than me and im ok with it.

Hmm. I still love my husband, but my patience for him is at the floor 😆 Like I’m not able to take care of him or something bc I’m taking care of everyone else. I’ve noticed it helps our relationship a lot when we’re intentional about being kind with each other. Do him a favor, give him the best piece, watch his show, etc. Those selfless acts go a long way in rekindling your own love too!