When finding a partner (dating, engaged or married): is having the same RELIGIOUS and/or POLITICAL stance important

I don’t think necessarily exactly the same, but broadly similar at least and for sure I think it’s important. I don’t think I could be in a marriage where we had starkly different or opposing views. Not just between us, but also for when we raise our children.

My husband and I have always had a different religious view but always agreed on teaching our kids about all religion so they can make that choice for themselves. And politics, we are mostly on the same page. We don’t have conflict about either with each other. I do think political stance is important as for some things but making sure your morals align is priority.

We can have different views on a lot of things, how taxes are spent, how the school systems are (he's English and I'm Scottish and our schools are surprisingly different) that kind of thing. What we can't have is differing views on moral things.

My Husband and I come from different races, culture & religion. we have sometimes even voted differently in some election cuz our politics can be different. Bt for us, none of those “differences” are important in our relationship. In the end we have more “similarities” with the things that matter to us, we respect one another for our differences :) & we know that good character is not based on skin color, nationality, culture, religion or politics, so we shouldn’t judge each other based on that :)

I tried dating people with different religious views, always failed. My husband and I are on the same page on religion and politics more or less....I think it can still work when you have different opinions though but rarely if they are complete opposite

I don’t think we have to align but I do think we can’t clash.. some religions and beliefs just don’t mix and nobody should be made to give up their own for another

Me and my husband follow the same religion and pretty much have similar political views although he may have some opinions and insights that I don’t 100% agree with and vice versa.

It's funny because me and my partner have different religions views and partially different political views. We still talk about everything I love how different he is from me. And vise versa. I love hearing what he thinks of things like creation death life birth and everything in between and I support him in his religion as often ad I can. Even sometimes going to church with him when I know he really wants to see it. We talk about political issues a lot as well and while we may agree on some We definitely do not always agree and it's fun to talk things through with someone who isn't judging you because of it. We have a lot of mini debates and we've both changed stances on issues because of each other. It the fun part of us honestly Also we just got engaged 💍 Last night ❤️💓

I’m curious abt Christian’s of various denominations being with people who don’t have they same religion. Generally they believe if you aren’t a Christian you’re going to hell. So do they choose their partner despite thinking they’ll go to hell? Do they not believe in hell? Do they think they can convert them?

@Victoria~ typically they believe that they'll be saved eventually

For me both are extremely important bcs: majority of religions being followed are abrahamic so they all believe the same thing. Though muslim usually must be with another. But for ppl who have no religion its can be hard to be with a religious person for many reasons. And on political views i’d say they have to be similar because politics are based on your morals, most ppl don’t get along with others who have opposing morals because you will never be able to agree on how to raise children or what to teach them, plus choosing a church/synagogue or none would be very dividing. Also not sure how you could marry someone who is voting to take your specific rights away or someone who voting is against things you believe are “godly/moral”.

Religious, yes. Political, no. For us the important thing has been the same ethics, same drive in life, same values.

Not the exact same but very similar is required to me as it is part of sharing same values and same values are necessary to build a family.

Even though my hubby and I are of the same faith, it was never given for me but that my partner respect my faith as I would theirs if we had different religious beliefs.

So you don't have to be exactly the same, but if you believe strongly in your worldview, it's impossible to marry out of it. Example of flat earth, as an example only. The few people I've met, couldn't have a healthy relationship outside of that circle.

Religious, absolutely! I couldn’t be with someone who was religious as I don’t want my children being brought up like it. Political it needs to relatively similar. There are things politically I care more about than my husband and vice versa but as a whole we are pretty on par.

Usually they don't really pay attention to it like me haha I avoid it all together because politics makes me mad 😂 and I'm not religious so I'm not interested in that

We need to agree on important big things. We must be the same religion, a different denomination is fine. We have to have similar political views but it doesn’t need to be identical.

Religious: it has to be the same. Cause you both may be of different religion but not that practicing. What will happen if one becomes religious and start following their religion to the dot? And they go as far as saying I’m convinced this is 100% the truth and I want my kids to be raised like that? Cause people grow and evolve? And some religion don’t mix at all. So you won’t enjoy your religious festival or eat certain food etc. hence, In my opinion it’s not worth the headache. And there’s no way to foresee that happening. As for politics If both are respectful then I think it can work.

It was important for ME to have similar views on both subjects because they are both tied with my code of ethics. I know not everyone feels the same and it's not a big deal to have opposing opinions, and I think that's great for them! I personally needed to be with someone with similar views because it directly ties into who I am as a person and how I want to raise my kids. I want my partner and I to be a united front for them 🙂

I think that overall, one's values have to align in some way. Especially in the event of bringing children into the mix, it's important to have some cohesion with how you're doing to raise those kids so that it's not unnecessarily more challenging than it already is.

I think if your religion or politics are different, then someone is compromising their values and that is a really horrible thing. Especially when it comes to raising kids. If beliefs change when you’re already married, I think it’s best to try to make it work though

Same/similar moral/ethical views, and world view are vital. Politically/spiritually we can have divergent views.

Religion yes political Should be similar as most people religious and policial views usually point to their core values and how they see and navigate the world and treat others

At long as they aren't extreme with their religion or political views, then I don't really care. And as long as they wouldn't force the kids to believe in what they believe I don't care

Religion yes, politics, I don’t care much but with the same religion, we can’t be that far off.

We have the same political views. But not religion. I'm a Christian and he's an atheist

To a certain extent I feel like it has to be the same. My husband and I share the same faith however we’re different denominations. Due to this we don’t share all practices or have the same exact views politically. It’s one of those things we had to decide early on in our relationship to respect the other persons practices and views. We can ask questions and try to understand better but if it starts to become an argument then the conversation is dropped. For the most part though we agree on everything, just how far we take our political beliefs/ how we do things is different :)

Religion id say yes. I don’t believe in pushing religion onto my child and if my husband did we’d have issues. Political no me and husband differ on that but I just don’t bring it up.

We discussed this first night😂but we have to have same views or at least close

For me it depends. If it’s serious stuff, yes, we’d need the same views. If it’s less serious stuff, no. And I would be with someone religious so long as they didn’t push it on me too hard.

Religious views need to be the same. I dated someone with different views before and it doesn’t work long term (for me). Political views can be different as long as our views on human rights, morals, and personal values are aligned