Terrified of my relationship with my partner changing.
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Your relationship will inevitably change with your partner (and should!), but it doesn't have to be a bad, scary thing!! It has been so wonderful seeing my husband become a dad 🥹 adding a kid into the mix definitely can increase stress and flare irritation when sleep isn't happening, lol, but it is SO WORTH IT. I have never been more in love with my man. Rather than just the infatuated, puppy love we felt for each other, our live has deepened and matured, and we adore each other now as parents and equal partners on the same team making our family happy, and our home a refuge from the world 🩷 marriage works when you work it!!
There are stages but when I saw my husband become a father it grew my love for him ten fold. Stuff does change and is hard but when people say it's worth it they mean it. And getting to see the person you love be a parent is an amazing gift
I'm going to be completely honest with you. I was also scared that my relationship with my husband would change and I did a lot of mourning for my old life while pregnant. I wanted to get pregnant but I still had some struggles. It is hard. I have a good baby in my opinion and it is hard. My relationship with my husband has not changed.
I love my baby but it wasn't a love at first sight thing for me. It had to build. I felt like everyone else was so in love with my baby that the love I felt for her wasn't completely there. I loved her but it was not like people said. Pregnancy wasn't like people said. It was all so romanticized in my mind. My baby is 5 months now and I do love her so much. My husband and I have basically the same relationship. The first couple months were hard because I had so much desire to cuddle with him/ love on him but I couldn't because of baby. We are better now but I also didn't anticipate how hard it would be to have sex when we wanted to. Feel free to ask any questions you may have
I’d just recommend talking. Talk about everything now. Work out your expectations of each other. Talk about who is going to do night feeds, nappies, weekends v weekdays, who will pay for things, what is important to each of you for the child’s future, parenting styles. Go to classes together. Just talk about everything!! My husband and I got married a month after baby was born so that brought us closer again but it is hard sometimes x
It can draw you nearer together. Express your worries to him, let him process everything, if he wants children this may make him even more excited. Your fears are valid but don't let others' experiences rain on your sunshine. I expected very little from my husband who isn't the most empathetic person naturally; I was blown away by his attentiveness during labor and delivery of our first together. Still the closest and most cherished experience and memory of us together. (It was a super intimate home birth..)
Ok these replies have all been so incredibly helpful 😭 Thank you!!
I fell more in love with my husband when I saw him become a dad. Sure, there were a lot of middle-of-the-night arguments and tears. But we were postpartum and I had raging hormones and he was doing his best just figuring out being a dad! Our relationship is different now, and with every season it changes. Some days I want to punch him while I’m feeding the baby as he snores. Some days I cry just imagining not having this beautiful life we created. But I always love him and he loves me. My biggest piece of advice: you are a TEAM, and when things are tough, remind yourself and each other of that 🤍
it’s totally normal to go through some changes! but it’ll only go sour if you let it. even though mama is carrying the baby, it’s still a 2 person job! it takes a lot of patience and communication but i feel like it honestly brings couples closer. it’s such an intimate moment and it’s beautiful to be able to go through all of these moments together. don’t stress and take this moment to enjoy the time you have together because, you’re right, lots of time will be with baby but that doesn’t mean your love will be neglected!