I’m drowning

Hey, please feel free to connect with me I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling. Maybe we can share tips, I also have a velcro baby and even with help it hasn’t been easy but it’s gotten better as time goes on.

Please eat more food, and research safe cosleeping. Replenishing nutrients is so important postpartum, and sleep deprivation makes you burn through vitamins and minerals even faster. Cosleeping will minimize nighttime wakeups and can be done safely. Your baby girl needs you and she’ll the healthier and happier you are, the better off she will be. Start with the basics: eat well, get outside a little, try to take her for a walk in the baby carrier and just talk to her about nature, and figure out how to get more sleep. It will get better.

I second this! We have had to cosleep because it’s been the only way my son sleeps. I was extremely against it while pregnant and still don’t recommend unless it’s a necessity but you both need your sleep. We are trying to get him adjusted to sleeping more in the crib but it’s taking time.

@Kelsey @Vanessa she does cosleep, she’s been sleeping with me since birth. Food is hard since she has a dairy intolerance so I had to cut out dairy and soy and everything has dairy in it.

Cosleep, God gave u a clingy baby cuz u both need love and nurture. Taking care of her is taking care of u and taking care of u is taking care of her. As stressful as this seem u will miss these days.

Second a lot of what’s been said. My DMs are open if you want to chat! 🖤 my son was a contact only napper and I have gotten a system that works!

I feel ya, I’m avoiding dairy and gluten right now and it’s hard. I can do butter though and it doesn’t bother my baby, if that makes things a little easier. Just try to get more calories in for a few days. When I don’t eat enough I actively fall apart and everything is a disaster. Also, kids get easier as they get older. In case no one has told you that. I always heard the opposite and finally one friend told me no it gets easier and she was right and she saved my sanity when she told me that. So just keep going and you’ll make it 💕

My son also has a dairy intolerance so he is on soy similac and it has helped a bunch. It’s the only thing he will accept. I have heard a lot of people like Kendamil goat milk if their baby has an intolerance. I tried it but my baby didn’t like it. Do you think she might be hungrier at night? Have you started purées? Maybe that would help.

I’m so sorry you are in the thick of it with family and baby not sleeping well. I have found the most important is to make sure she takes naps throughout the day in a completely dark out room with a white noise machine. Try to start with contact nap then lay her down or try to lay her down while she’s awake and let her cry a bit until she sleeps….have her last nap be 2.5-3 hours before bedtime no naps prior. And make sure she’s tired and has played etc before bedtime preferably 7/8. This is apart of the takingcara babies program. Your got this!

I have a Velcro baby and he just turned 6 months I’m so sorry you’re going through it mamas you’re more than welcome to reach out and connect with me. I’ll try to offer support however I can 🩷

@Miriam i took the takingcarababies course too the nap schedule hasn’t changed her night sleep at all, and I can’t sleep train her until I resolve the blood in her stool so I feel like I’m stuck

@Vanessa yeah I might switch over to formula, I’m sad about it I wanted to breastfeed her for as long as I could

before you stop, make sure you’re getting all your nutrients for yourself! eat more fatty foods because the case may be that you just have skim milk! however fed is best, there’s no issue giving her a bottle before bed if it helps you both get some sleep. my bubba only started sleeping through the night when we started formula. best of luck mama!

My baby is 5.5 months and has a dairy allergy! I combination feed, he is on similac alimentum + I am dairy free now too. Sometimes the days are really hard and long. All naps are contact naps. But it has been getting better. I try to appreciate the snuggles and remember this is a very short time. I will say recently going out and about in a stroller, to the store, etc has been really great for him and me. He loves to socialize and his mood instantly improves (even a few weeks ago I wouldn't have dreamed of doing this). Maybe you could also try inviting a friend over to see the baby during a time they are usually in a good mood, maybe let you have a shower or 20 minute break. I'm sure that feels like a lot but it is worth trying at least once.

I would consider cosleeping safely. You need rest my friend. If you are bottle feeding, consider getting a family member to help you for 1 night a week for a bit. You would be surprised at how well you feel when you are well rested

Also get a carrier to wear your baby and get stuff done that you need while she’s in there: