Struggling

I 100% feel this. The guilt and the mourning of my old life, especially the months/weeks leading up to birth where i basically just slept and did whatever I wanted. Going from that to someone needing me 24/7 was really hard. I find the evenings the hardest and I’m very negative but once i talk it through with my partner I’m fine again. I think it’s hard for anyone who isn’t going through it to fully understand all the thoughts and lists and worries we have. You’re totally not alone, I promise you. All we can do is take it one day at a time. Please feel free to message me. Always around if you need a chat or a vent. We all need someone 🤍

Hey, totally normal and ok that you're feeling this way. I've felt very similar to how you're describing now. (I'm also autistic). The sleep was difficult for me too, so I slept during the day as well. & I just made sure that I had time whenever I needed it to reset myself, so when my partner was with the baby id do whatever I needed to feel the best version of me again. It honestly does get easier, especially with the feeding! Squash those feelings of guilt as much as you can because you are a great mum for even thinking all of this! If you wanted to message me to talk privately then feel free. Happy to listen to rants or share my experiences xxx

Having a baby is a HUGE adjustment. Do not ever underestimate how amazing you’re doing just because it doesn’t feel like it. You WILL get through this! Make sure to lean on friends/ family/ professionals that you trust. There is absolutely no shame in needing support and it DOES NOT make you a bad mum to ask for help! ❤️

I felt really similarly to you, had no help at home as hubby works long hours and family all miles away. I cried almost constantly and although I loved baby to bits, I felt I’d made a total mistake and underestimated how hard it would be. For me, I felt way more human and able to feel happy and more myself (but changed forever) at around 3 months. We’re at 6.5 months now and although it’s still tough at times, I feel sad and overwhelmed much, much less often. The happy, lovely moments are more prominent and I feel more capable and in control of knowing what to do and trusting my mum instincts. It will get better ❤️❤️❤️ keep going, you’re doing so well!!! Also, just forget about the low-priority house tasks and prioritise sleep, good food (for you and baby) and getting some moments to chill. For me this was watching some fave shows and eating biscuits while baby contact napped on me! I miss this now she will only sleep independently!

Hey I’m also autistic and a mum to a 12 week old. Whenever it gets tricky I remind myself things change all the time (her sleep patterns, her needs, her skills) and often for the better ♥️ also, earplugs when she has a crying spell 💯 and I do often feel exhausted and touched out when before I used to be able to rest a lot. The other day I saw friends and afterwards I was so so tired and I had no time to recover because I am still a mum 😭 as you said, we are lucky to have supportive partners but I babies still depend on us the most. I think things will get easier as they become more independent but i also think we will miss our tiny babies.