Am I overreacting? MIL rant

My MIL is the typical over opinionated, ignorant to new guidelines over baby safety etc. woman. She generally ignores when i tell her that baby is tired or hungry and doesn't give him back. She has even woken him up from the moses basket as she wanted to talk to him 🙄 Anyway, she smokes and will touch his cheeks and hands afterwards without washing her hands first. She says she doesnt smell of smoke so it's not a problem (which to be fair she doesn't). I'm really not comfortable with it but I know if I say anything she'll get all defensive and most likely ignore me anyway. I try to feed him when she comes back in from smoking so she doesn't touch him but she will always stroke his cheeks when she leaves regardless. My husband doesn't see why it's an issue for me (we are both ex smokers and he now vapes) but it really bothers me.

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You’re not over reacting that would boil my blood.I can relate to most and so can many more Mothers. All you can do is speak up and not allow it. You are your Baby’s voice♥️

I have a similar experience I just take her away until I feel more comfortable and say she needs to have a nap/feed and close my bedroom door.

That’s so frustrating. Your MIL needs to respect the boundaries you put in place for your child, and your husband should be supporting you with that. Even if he doesn’t think it’s an issue, the fact that it matters to you should be enough. Washing hands before holding a baby should be standard practice- smoking or not. Like Libby said, you are your baby’s advocate. If something doesn’t feel right to you, go with that instinct. 🤍

Your partner needs to be the one standing up for you and your baby here and telling her straight

Just don’t see her if she won’t listen to you 🤷🏻‍♀️

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