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Oh I think it’s completely depends on your relationship! Some mother and daughters talk to each other or see each other every day. Others not at all. There is no right or wrong answer!
I’m sure it’s very different for everyone. My mother likes to send me random Facebook videos etc most days and I tend to just reply with a “😂” and we exchange the odd text with a screenshot of a run we’ve done or something, but for actual quality interaction we speak on the phone once a week and I generally see her once a month. She’d like it to be more I think but I’m very busy and she lives nearly 2 hours away and always insists we go to her, which I of course can’t always do, so the ball is in her court really!
I think the “normal” is what you are comfortable with. Even if your mom needs to talk to you more often, it’s never an OK move to blame you for her need. If you want to make her feel better about “your relationship”, you can tell her that you are happy with the way things are but you are open to hear what she has in mind, what would she like to see more of from you, and what would she like her to do more of. If she keeps playing the blame/victim card, you are absolutely permitted to distance yourself until she starts speaking to you with the respect and care you feel you deserve. By the way, in case it is not obvious 😉, your pregnancy is not about her. It’s about you and what you need 🙂 Just a friendly reminder 🙂
Could she be jealous of your relationship with your own child? Or scared she’ll lose you as you have new priorities? Maybe she just needs time to adjust, not that that justifies her behaviour x