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Your husband is being a dick here, sorry to be blunt! I felt sick and excessively tired since the day I found out I was pregnant and my partner completely understood, never pressured me or made me feel bad for not wanting to have sex! I'm assuming aswell that this is the first time you've been made aware that this isn't the first time? Sounds like it to me! Sorry but I'm annoyed for you, the big fucking baby needs to stop sulking and grow the fuck up!
Don't feel bad. The first bit of pregnancy is so hard! I would sit your husband down and explain that things are not going to be the same for a while. This is part of pregnancy. I would request some understanding on his part and let him know you still think he's hot. ... ask him if he would feel up to having sex when he has the flu or food poisoning 😄
Don’t feel bad, you don’t feel well and have health concerns. I doubt he would feel in the mood if he was dealing with bleeding and nausea
It IS a chore when wife is feeling sick. Husband - be more compassionate. He’s not a victim. He is reversing the situation on you. You need to communicate what you need so he can be there for you. If you have done then he needs to stop being selfish and be careful you aren’t enabling him to behave childishly.
Has he made it out that the relationship is over? I understand why his feelings are hurt. But you trying whilst sick is an act of love - his response is childish
@Roberta he says he doesn’t know what he wants but for now he just doesn’t feel like talking to me. He said he will coexist with me and the babies for now and the third baby coming again this time is scary
Third baby was planned too - just a note
Sometimes we go through hard times in our relationship and this is no one’s fault so HE needs to learn how to deal
@Leah it certainly feels like it came out of nowhere. This is definitely not his nature. For the most part he’s kind and patient. I understand his feelings but the reaction hurts. Especially when we should be in a very loving and exciting place
I don’t think he’s being a dink, 😂I think he’s being overly sensitive. Maybe he feels rejected by you. Or just frustrated in general, needs a release 😂😂😂 I’d be very forward with him and say” I want to have sec, I just feel gross at the moment and not myself so I just need a bit of space from that for now, I didn’t mind pleasuring you but if I’m being honest my hearts not in it. I’m exhausted etc”
@Karly I agree. I think he’s embarrassed and you’re right likely feeling rejected. I love my husband very much so this is killing me.
Just have a chat with him it doesn’t have to be formal ! Just tell him what’s up, pregnancies affect men too, especially if they’re in tune with their woman. Xoxo hope u can work it out
He’s embarrassed it will pass
It’s been 6 days. Last night I laid my heart out there and he appreciated everything I said and understood but said he needs time. He’s kissing me goodbye before work now and said he loves me but I’m in agony.
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Yeah he’s got a lot to adjust to too! Don’t stress girl. Just if you’re feeling really guilty make him something he really likes cookies etc?
@Karly I don’t mean to single you out or make it personal at all. Many women on this thread have said a similar ‘there-there’s type response. I’m just thinking that his behaviour is bad behaviour. He’s not considering or being compassionate to his wife then treating her poorly for trying. Isn’t making cookies etc enabling bad behaviour?
@jane I’m not entirely sure of the whole situation but from what I read her husband was expressing that he feels like she don’t wanna be intimate with him; he feels rejected by her. Perhaps he went about it the wrong way, but I’m not sure where the bad behaviour is? I don’t feel singled out , it’s just a conversation! :)
Thank for the advice but I don’t think anything I do for him will even matter. I let him know that I can’t alone bridge the gap and he has to meet me somewhere in the middle but he keeps blocking me. He said I was right but he has a lot to think about. There’s something deeper going on that he’s not sharing with me other than me “not being into it” the other night. This is exhausting and my pain is starting to turn into anger and I don’t want to go there.
I’m sorry to hear that! I hope he opens up to you soon! Sitting in limbo is the worst, but let it go off your shoulders if it’s not in your control anymore yknow xoxo
@Karly thank you. At this point I’ve done what I can…
@incognito Well done for looking deeper. Ditto What @Karly said. And this time RN is about you. Concentrating on your mental and physical well being. You guys bed to be cuddling rn. He should be riding this out with you. And recognising you’re amazing for trying even you feel so bad. I really hope up can get some peace and zen 🧘 though this silent treatment.
You shouldn’t beat yourself up over this. I feel your husband should be more understanding given that you don’t feel yourself and coupled with the bleeding at this early stage in the pregnancy. I don’t think you did anything wrong but it’s worth talking things out with him and letting him know exactly how you feel.